Dd is 21 months old and I'm four months pregnant, we also have an almost 5 year old ds. Dd was an extremely high maintenance baby - I'm not exaggerating when I say that besides showering I don't think we had more than two minutes separate in the first 16 months of her life. However, as she's got older she can be distracted and cajoled and I'm trying to encourage her to be more independent rather than a permanent fixture on my hip. I have back problems that worsen when I'm pregnant and carrying a heavy toddler around all day leaves me in agony.
So today, for example, we walked the dog and usually she'd want to be carried (she doesn't do pushchairs 
) but I distracted her by chatting about flowers, animals, aeroplanes etc and she ended up walking all the way there and back without complaint. This afternoon I washed up and usually she'd want to sit next to me on the side but I set her something to do up on the floor and she got on with that.
Dh came home at tea time and dd was happy playing. A few months ago she'd have been on my hip while I was cooking. Fair enough he picked her up to say hello, but then started making a cup of tea while still holding her, she starts grumbling because she wants to go back to playing and he puts her on the side next to me so she asks me to now pick her up. I sit her at the table and go to fetch the other meals, come back and he's feeding dd her tea, which she's perfectly capable of doing herself. She moans because she doesn't like a part of her meal so I took it away. I return and he's now got her on his lap climbing all over him and she accidentally sits in his tea and then cries because she's messy so my meal is interrupted because she is cross with dh so I have to change her.
I then replace her at the table for pudding, go to get it and can hear her babbling happily to ds. I return and dh is taking her clips off, I ask why and he said he was bringing her to see me He then hands her to me and goes to take her bowl but instead knocks it over so it goes on the floor, cue a fruit eating dog and crying dd.
I get her some more and again dh puts her on his lap and spoon feeds her. When she's finished he carries her to kitchen, carries her to her toys, even carries her with him to blow his nose! He was then going out and unsurprisingly, dd was sticking to me like glue for the rest of the evening and refusing to do anything independently.
Aibu to be annoyed with him babying her? My friend thinks he 'obviously just misses her' and that it's cute but it's completely undermined everything she's achieved today and set her back. I won't physically be able to carry her and the baby around and think dh is being unfair by not helping to.prepare her as I'll be coping alone for the majority of the time.