to have lost sympathy with friend still moaning about a broken heart after six months

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I'm really at my Whits end, I mean it happened months ago and still she's blaming him for many of her problems and saying stuff like "if I die, tell people I died of a broken heart". I was sympathetic to begin with, btbh not supprised he broke up with her and I just replied to that text with "have a spa day!".

Also Goodadvice some of the relationship board I know and they've had a ton of problems from abusive cheating exes to unkind parents so much so they've NCd.

I hope you never suffer that.

OP ask her to stop the texts then. Or delete them.

I am sympathetic, I just have zero tolerance for continued wallowing and the victim mentality.

For some people, misery loves company and they feed off of that - it is attention seeking behaviour at its worst.

Yes, there is a lot of good advice on the Relationships board, I am not denying that at all.

Goodadvice I sort of see what you mean.

I used to be a wallower but now I've certainly bucked my ideas up. And am much less inclined to wallow as I know it does me and others no good. Therapy (CBT) really helped me.

Some people don't have that mentality or those tools.

I feel sorry for her up to a point. I've had a few break ups where I've found it very hard to move on (have not stalked though, to be clear) when to someone looking in it would seem like I was wallowing for no reason. But I didn't talk about it, and certainly would never say things like, "tell people I died of a broken heart....". Who does she think she is? Fanny fucking Robin? Most people have enough self-awareness to realise that they might be being daft, or that their friends might not want to hear it repeatedly.

There's actually a thing called the Miss Havisham Effect, where the brain gets addicted to the chemicals released when they think about the person they've lost.