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to put up a new fence regardless

15 replies

mismylinford · 21/05/2014 12:27

we live in terist house so have neighbours both sides both are elderly one couple is lovely and very polite and quite often talk to them on the other side is an old lady who is very nosey constantly commenting on my garden and my activities in general and also tells me about all the 'gossip' on the street (apart from my direct neighbours i don't know anyone in the street). she's also knocked in my door just to 'remind'me the postman didn't shut my gate and it looks wonky making the steet look untidy. so yes she's very annoy and a busy body... i get she's old an alone.
so in the nice weather we are re doing the garden and on her side there is a very old falling down fence so we told her will be putting up a new fence which she agreed. we went out and got some very nice and expensive panels with trelliss on the top so she can still see through an complain... we up it up and wow.... it was like world war 3 she said it was the most disgusting thing she's seen said it was too tall (same height as previous fence) she said she won't be able to sleep over it and felt sick.
the fence is on our side and 5ft tall do i just leave it? we told her wed be getting a fence and constantly have to put up with her complaining about my.garden anyway (i think its a very nice garden). am i being unreasonable to put my foot down and keep it up?

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CollieEye · 21/05/2014 12:29

No. Keep it.

helpmeimamess · 21/05/2014 12:31

Pull it down and put a taller one up. You don't have to deal with someone being rude to you and imposing on your life just because they're elderly.

orangepudding · 21/05/2014 12:35

I would have put up a taller one!

RedRoom · 21/05/2014 12:35

No. If it's the same height, decent quality, on your side and, most importantly of all, she agreed to it then she has no cause for complaint. Why would she prefer a rotten broken fence? My guess is that she could see better through the broken bits of the old fence!

Also, her knocking on the door to moan about an open gate is too much. It is none of her bloody business.

rowna · 21/05/2014 12:37

I'd just leave it up. We have a ndn a bit like this. You need to be firm with ours or it doesn't stop. Whether it's the fence, parking, washing - she'll pick on anything we do and try to get us to do it differently. When really it's none of her business. The fence isn't the problem.

Seeline · 21/05/2014 12:38

Is it the same height with the trellis or is that extra?
Either way, I'd keep it. She'll soon get used to it.

SantasLittleMonkeyButler · 21/05/2014 12:39

Whether she is elderly or not, she sounds like a pain in the bum!

Keep your fence.

Is it fence coloured by the way? You aren't the 'red fence' neighbour from last year are you? Wink

Plomino · 21/05/2014 12:40

Leave it . As long as it isn't high enough to need planning permission , and she's agreed to it , then tough . You haven't made it a completely solid fence , so it's not as if you've suddenly shut her in ( much as you may wish to! ) . It sounds like whatever you'd put up she'd complain about .

mismylinford · 21/05/2014 12:47

glad to see im not alone with thoughts of keeping it up. the other fence was like a picket fence and could see right through to our garden the new one is paneled with trelice on the top and her side is natural wood colour our side we painted a light natural brown.
she complains about everything... even not hearing us in the house " oh i never know if your in as i can't hear you it makes me nervous" i have a 3 1/2 year old... how can she not hear anything?
i would love a all fence but i feel sorry for her being on her own and she's 77 though she would tell me weren't stick my sympathy... like she did when it was icey and i offered to get her groceries.

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VivaLeBeaver · 21/05/2014 12:49

Nail a bit of trellis to the top and grow some quick growing plant up it. 5ft ain't tall enough.

missnevermind · 21/05/2014 12:51

My 80 year old neighbour climbed my gate to knock on the kitchen window because it was 9am and I hadn't opened the front curtains yet. Shock

DizzyKipper · 21/05/2014 13:14

Crikey missnevermind, though I do admire that kind of persistence! I hope you left the curtains closed all day Wink

honeybeeridiculous · 21/05/2014 13:42

We used to live in a terraced house and the ndn who was 84 used to climb over the fence which was waist height to take my washing in, even if it wasn't raining Hmm I used to get home from work and wonder where the fuck my washing was!
Our kitchen windows faced each other too and he would wave when I was washing up, thinking back, I don't know how we put up with it for so long Grin
YABU, you should have put up a 6 foot fence with trellis on top!!

RedRoom · 21/05/2014 13:58

the other fence was like a picket fence and could see right through to our garden the new one is paneled

Ah, well. That says it all. She doesn't like the fence because it stops her being nosy. Keep it, and then put climbing plants on the trellis before you find her standing on a box trying to look through there too.

Andrewofgg · 21/05/2014 15:08

Put it up. Sod her.

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