Nit strictly an aibu although I probably an a bit!
There is a small group if us that met at a baby playgroup I get on very well with 2 of the girls and with the third I thought we git on fine. Anyways over the last bank holiday weekend friend 3 had organised a small event at a local park and friend 1 and her hubby invited myself, dp and the dsc's along (our dd and dp's 2 kids) and said they would ring us on the day to confirm tines etc. Anyway no phonecall happened but wasn't too bothered as dp and I had gone out for the day.
Anyway saw friend 1's hubby last week (sahd) and asked if they had had a good time at the event thing. He looked very awkward and apologised for not ringing but said friend 3 (happens to be his step mother in case it'srelevant) had told friend 1 and 2 not to tell me aanything as she didn't want me there. Friend 1 and hubby pointed out that she was being very mean and they had already invited me. Excuses were made along the lines of I wouldn't know anyone and friend 1's hubby pointed out I knew same number of people as they did. He eventually left it as didn't want to cause a row etc but was really embarrassed.
Forward to this weekend and dp and I have been discussing dd's birthday which is in the middle of the summer hols so want to get invites out early so we know numbers. I want to invite friends 1 and 2 and their partners and kids and had every intention of inviting friend 3 but now feel really quite awkward about it.
I know it sounds petty and school yard politics but I have spent a long time building my self esteem after years of really horrible things being done to me and I feel like I ought to stand up for myself but equally I don't want to cause an issue with the other friends.
Wibu to not invite friend 3 as I really will be on edge all day having her there or do I just be the bigger person?