to think there was no need for this "sympathy"?

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Had a drink with two friends tonight. One of them has recently set up a mutual friend with her male friend - they have hit it off very well.

She spent a long time talking about how good they are together and that they have booked a holiday together and then friend herself was talking about her wedding.

When she asked me if I was seeing someone special. I replied truthfully that no I wasn't.

She said "aww that's so shit"

I've never expressed to her my dire need for a partner and if I had one it doesn't mean my life is complete.

Aibu to think you just don't say something like that?

They are both in relationships so they must think that, just now, they've hit the jackpot. A bit unguarded and thoughtless but I don't think if was mean. They're your friends so you'd know better the intention.

One of my friends keeps saying it's time they found me a bloke and is apparently making it a goal (it's not a great friendship because I met her through her work and she's decided we're friends... we probably could be but it's off putting). I don't feel the need to be in a relationship but she's not having it. She's also decided that I need to meet "the girls" she's friends with so I can go out more. Because apparently not getting drunk every weekend means I need to get out more. Strangely I've had plans every time this has been suggested.

Yeah, that's annoying. If you are happy being single - and plenty of people are - why on earth is it 'shit'. Better than bein in a dead-end relationship for the sake of it.

On the other hand, if you are not happy, you don't need your face rubbed in it.

Either way, YANBU.

Sometimes people who are your friends want their happiness transposed to you, and attribute their current happiness to their relationship. It's most likely unthinking but not ill-intended.

Ignore, I was always perplexed by peoples need to be on a "couple" to be happy, I was always happy either way, single or a couple, which is why I have happy memories of ex's, I wasn't desperately grabbing the first man available, or putting up with any shit, finish it the minute they where boring me, pissing me off.
I realise many woman and men feel frightened by being single, they feel the rest of the world judges them, and so they project that to the happy singles/couples.

On that note I have been married 15 years this week, alway said I wouldn't get married, but he added the cherry on the cake of my life,

Cake is brilliant on its own but a cherry adds something special without detracting from the actual cake.

And if I had only had cake I would still be happy because I always was :)

missingmumxox Ooh, I like that. My DH was the cherry to my cake too. :)

I'll go further and say that a cherry won't make a shitty cake better.

Just say "not really, I'm fine with it thanks" and move on. She's just projecting her own feelings of insecurity so ignore it. It doesn't mean that she intended to be rude or insensitive.

I agree with parentalunit. People do it.

That Sarah Beeny really annoys me with her dating website 'My Single Friend.' Some people just can't accept that you can be single and happy.