Update on wanting mil to visit

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I posted the other day about how mil and sil expect dp to travel to them pick then up then come back on ds birthday party day.
Dp told then he is not doing it and they have flipped calling us free loaders dp works ds gets dla I get carers allowance, ds has milk allergy so docs prescribed milk until he was 2. They said we should be getting a special needs pushchair from wheelchair services as ds can walk (he's a danger to himself in public) and when he's 3 he shouldn't get nappies on prescription as he should be potty trained (he has autism and cant talk or understand much).
All of the above because dp said no to driving them down when his Granda has said his dm could take his car that day. Both of them do not work as mil has not worked in 15 years I gave up work in November when all the appointments for ds came threw.
I'm seriously considering not allowing ds to visit for a long time but that would mean he wouldn't see his great grandparents and they are lovely but live in the same street.

I posted on your last thread, my response is the same.

fuck 'em.

they don't deserve to see your DS, they can't even be arsed to learn about his medical condition/ needs.
why should you do all the running about?

I'd still take him to visit his great- grandparents, why should they miss out cos mil's crap?

Good grief, what foul people. Cut them out of your lives, they are clearly never going to bother to try to understand what autism entails and are going to continue looking down on your son and blaming you for not bringing him up to be non-autistic.

Now is the time to learn some retorts. You're 'free loaders' right? That says more about them than it does about you - I bet MIL is scared people see her as a free loader if she's not worked in 15 years. You'd be well within your rights to throw that back at her, if you wanted to stoop to their level. It's up to you whether you think it's worth it though.

'I've not worked since November. You've not worked for fifteen years and I'm the free loader? Hahaha, you're funny, MIL'. That sort of thing.

And, you know what, you ARE working. Carer's Allowance is a pittance, but it's your wages for doing a difficult job looking after your son. My son is on the high end of the spectrum, so I know a lot about autism. (Sorry for the multiple posts, it's my birthday and I'm a bit drunk.)

Happy birthday, dear God.

Happy birthday, you gave me a few laughs there Thankyou and I don't want to stoop to there level as much as I would love to, it's dp I feel sorry for he has just recently realised he's been taken for a ride by mil, I just wish they could keep what ever they are feeling to themselves and not shout foul things about her grandchild to her own son.

The thing is, it's not actually about your son though. She's a selfish person and everything is about how she feels. She expects a lift because it's a long way. Your DP is her son, so he should be looking after his mother of course - or whatever spurious reasons she uses to justify her behaviour.

She didn't get her own way, so she's throwing her toys out of the metaphorical pram. You can't possibly be nice people because you're not doing what nice people SHOULD, which is doing what she says, so she's lashing out.

TL;DR - If it looks like a cunt, smells like a cunt, but isn't as useful as a cunt, then I'm sorry to have to tell you this, but it's not actually a cunt; it's your MIL.

(Thank you for the birthday wishes, but please don't call me God. Tits is just fine. )

Your are completely right I wish mn has a like button or something similar for your replies :)

It's the beer talking. I'll be mortified when I read this again tomorrow.

"I'm seriously considering not allowing ds to visit for a long time but that would mean he wouldn't see his great grandparents and they are lovely but live in the same street."
Of course he can see his great grandparents! You just go to their house and their house only. What's MIL going to do, start hollering in the street and making herself look like a fuckwit. (I expect her neighbours are already aware of the fact.)

I didn't see your previous thread but your MIL and SIL sound like they're not going to bring anything positive to your DS's life, or yours or your DP's either, for that matter, so I agree - dump 'em.

Of course you can still take DS to see DP's grandparents, just because they're on the same street, doesn't mean you have to then visit MIL! What's she going to do, after all?

Your little family doesn't need their ignorant, self-centred poison in your lives - tell 'em to sod off.

At least you know where you stand now mil and SIL have shown their true colours. Carry on seeing great grandparents, if invited to see MIL just decline politely.

goodness what a shame .your mother in law sounds lovely .my 14 year old has autism and all I get is he looks normal .what do they want him deformed to prove disability .stay away until at least an apology

Your MIL is vile. Take the fact that she won't make her own way to visit you for the gift it is...

My MIL has done the ecxact same thing.

DH couldn't be her taxi to ours anymore due to change of work hours. She threw her toys out the pram, stamped her feet, blamed us and didn't even send DD1 a birthday card.

We dont see her anymore purely because of her behaviour.

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