AIBU to not always wash the bedding between MiL visits

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My in-laws visit for a couple of nights every few weeks, and I don't always wash the bedding in-between.

I know my MiL has a thing about this because she once criticised (to me) her other son's wife for the same thing when they had kids and we didn't. Also, on the day of leaving she always asks me if I would like her to strip the bed, even though I always say "no thankyou", whether I plan to wash the bedding or not, because I don't want to feel pressurised into doing it immediately.

AIBU? I don't think so. I just wanted to sound off because I find it frustrating.

Scuttle I was beginning to think I was alone. A shower and then jumping into a fresh made bed is so nice. Doesn't take long even with the quilt. Surely everyone starts with it inside out?

I reckon uncle had used the pillowcase, er, "as a sock"

I don't start with it inside out. I stuff the tops corners in then give it a shake. I find itmuch easier this way.

In your case, I think I would air the bed thoroughly and change the pillowcases.

I am also very lazy busy and we have lots of guests, brand new adults get a completely fresh bed, teenagers are lucky if they get a fresh pillowcase

And duvet changes always need two people, as one person has to climb inside and pretend to be a ghost.
Every time

If she can tell that they haven't been washed then they need to be.

I don't turn the quilt cover inside out, either. I just put the corners of the quilt in the corners of the cover but next time, I am so going to get inside and pretend to be a ghost.

Chorus... bless your innocent heart

I wouldn't change the bed if the same person/people were coming again next as long as long as it still looked clean with no stains & had been aired.

My mum once asked if I'd mind if she didn't change the linen after I'd stayed - DH & I were going the following week - I didn't. She did once admit she didn't change the linen before my DB's children stay over "because they never change their own bedlinen" - true - they never change it unless it has been actually soiled - urgh

I think it is unnecessary. could wash pillowcase.

I wouldn't change them every time.

I have a friend who stays overnight one night a week, I wash her sheets every fortnight unless of course someone else is staying. If my parents come and stay I sleep in my bed until the night they are coming then put clean bedding on my bed and let them sleep there (my bed is bigger/more comfortable that the spare bed) and I sleep in the spare bed on the once used sheets. Doesn't bother me if I know who has been in it. I then change spare bed for friend and I go back to my bed once parents have gone

My eldest DD is only at home overnight randomly so it's a similar scenario and her bedding is washed after 4/5 sleeps. All our other beds get slept in every night and get changed weekly.

If youngest DD invites a friend for a sleep over in eldest DDs bed, it gets changed before and after the sleep.

If the bed remains untouched for more than 4 weeks i'll strip it off and wash it anyway as i feel it must be dusty/stale by then.