DS comes home with injury, preschool know nothing.

[FreeSpirit89]

My DS is 4 and attends a local nursery twice a week, when I went to collect him he has a biggish graze on his chest. Just above the belly about an inch below the nipple.

When I mentioned it to nursary staff they knew nothing about it? Hadn't realised he had done it. Despite the fact it's rather red, and puffy. DS brought it to my attention complained he was hurt.

The staff apologised, and said accidents happen. But didn't even log it in the accident. WIBU to make a complaint and who to

As a one off I would leave it. You've already brought it to their attention, that's plenty. They can't have eyes in the back of their head and the mark was hidden.

My DS went through a long phase of having muddy, bloody knees when I picked him up. I mentioned it and kept on mentioning it. The odd incident gets missed, fair enough, but if week in week out the nursery staff are missing not just the incidents but the blood dripping from the knees, you start to wonder how much attention the children are getting.

YABU to complain but I understand why you're miffed that they didn't notice. If he didn't notice himself or cry or show distress, they aren't psychic.

I think you are being a little bit OTT about this. DD1 comes home from school with more grazes and bruises than i can now count, DD2 has loads as well.

Kids fall over, they pick themselve sup. Unless they tell someone people are not psychic

I'm always bashing, bruising and cutting myself without noticing. Wouldn't surprise me if your son didn't notice he'd done it so wouldn't have told anyone.

I assume he had a top on in which came they would not have seen the scratch, if he didn't tell them he had hurt himself how would they know? No matter how many adults are present, there is always the chance a child may hurt themselves when they are looking in the opposite direction. I think yabu and need to impress on your ds the importance of telling the staff when he hurts himself so they can help him.

Nursery staff can't win can they - they would be complained about if they lifted children's clothing to look at their bodies and now they are getting complained about because they didn't!!!
I seriously cannot understand how on earth they are supposed to have seen this graze if it was on a covered part of the body????

Are you really so overprotective of your kid that you know how every scrape happened? I just can't imagine how that could be unless you don't give them the freedom to play at all, most toddlers get all sorts of bumps and bruises, lots are not noticed by them in the instant as they're caught up in the excitement of what they're doing.

YABU.

I can understand why you think they should have noticed that he was hurt and that it might have made you question how attentive they are.

However, unless your ds cried or told someone what happened then nurseries do sometimes miss incidents. tbh with ds' nursery they always seemed to miss incidents until someone was crying. And his nursery class was tiny!

They don't seem to have had enough information to put in the accident book. They can't just log a graze when they have no idea how it happened.

If you're concerned, have a quick chat with them tomorrow and allow them to reassure you about how they monitor the children when playing, etc (ie how they missed it happening!) , their policy for logging accidents, etc. You need to be able to trust them so if this has shaken your trust, give them the opportunity to fix that.