to just give up on sister

[TraceyTrickster]

My sister and I fell out over the behaviour of her (adult) daughter and we stopped talking.

Anyway we were moving to Australia, and she did not get in touch. Moving was stressful and I let it ride. So we did not say goodbye, she has had no contact with my small daughter over the last 2 years.

Due to life threatening illness of another family member, I contacted my sister and we are talking again. We are planning to visit this ill relative so are visiting UK. Sister invited me to stay - as we need to make up apparently.
I send her our plans....2 weeks later she says she might be off on holiday for the time we were going to visit. A week later she says 'yup we have now booked to go away on those dates. Hope we can see you some other time'

WIBU to just bypass her? I feel affronted that she invited us, asked for our dates THEN books a holiday. She does not work, so its not planned to fit around her work schedule.
DH, DD and I have so many other things we could do, but I keep thinking 'she is family'. She has fallen out with a few people and I think she is one of 'those' MILs.

She sounds like hard work, but maybe the dates were cheaper?

I'd leave it to her to make the effort now.

Hope your relative recovers.

I think she's trying to provoke a reaction from you.
I'd just let her get on with it. Get about your business, spend some quality time with your ill relative and if you see her, you see her and if you don't its not going to change anything is it?

Well she obviously doesn't want to see you but is being quite pointed about it.

When you say she invited you to stay, do you mean use her house as a base whilst there or just visit for a couple of days?

sounds like a big 'fuck you' to me, tbh.

I'd just say fine, maybe see you some other time if we happen to come to the UK

then I'd forget about her forever.

I'd go with a cheery 'OK. Have a good holiday'.

And the sod her. Let her do any further running. If she doesn't, she doesn't!

I would give up on her too.

She is being pressured by the adult daughter not to resume a relationship with you. She wants a relationship with you. At the moment it's really hard.
Just keep in touch on a basis she is comfortable with, if the opportunity arises meet her away from her home.
We had exactly the same situation in my family. DSis died recently and I think not so DNiece regrets the gulf that she forced upon us over the last few years, although we were never not in contact we do wish things could have been different.

I'd leave her to it, she old enough and ugly enough to make her own bed really.

She's chickened out. It's possible your DN gave her an ultimatum, it's me or AuntyTraceyTrickster. You were willing to take the opportunity to heal the rift. Just do as suggested, shrug, wish her a happy holiday, focus on your very poorly relative.

Thanks for the thoughts everyone.

I guess it could be adult daughter stirring things up...her brother (ie my nephew to whom I am am very close) said she barely speaks to him, because of some imagined slight.

Bloody families.