to not necessarily call someone back unless they leave a message..

[TiramiSue]

Friend rings, i miss the call. I see the missed call, but no voicemail has been left. If i am not busy i will ring back as quick as i can, but if there is no message then i don't always ring back just as soon as i notice the missed call.

If they leave a message and it is obviously urgent i will drop whatever i am doing and ring back.

Its just a friend of mine gets huffy with me if i don't always return her calls, even when she hasn't left me any message. I'm like, if its that urgent and you need a response then leave a bloody message so that i know to ring you back straight away, otherwise just a missed call isn't necessarily going to be returned immediately.

She always goes did you not get my call? Why did you not ring me back?? In a very indignant sort of way, and i'm thinking to myself well i didn't realise it was so important/urgent of you would have left me a message!

YABU

YANBU. I never return missed calls. Assume that if someone has something to say they will leave a message.

YANBU. If i have a missed call from someone and i can call them back then i will. Conversely, I wouldn't get shitty with someone who didn't call me back. If its important then you text or leave a message.

Yanbu if there's no message then no call back.

Yanbu. No message it's not important

Yanbu.

I don't ring back for a missed call with no message. I assume it's a misdial if there's no message.

Yanbu at all

yanbu. Ring when it suits you. Presumably that's what she did when she called!

On the other side of the coin, it may well be that that you don't want to be called back if you haven't left a message. For instance, you could have got that vital bit of information off someone else, or you didn't hang on because you realised you'd hit the wrong name in your contacts list, or were only ringing for a chat and would rather try again when you know you have time for it.

Messages usually say something like 'hi it's jane, just ringing for a chat. Call me back'. What's the bloody point in leaving a message? You can see who it is from the missed call

Phew thanks! I was beginning to feel like maybe i was really rude or something!

I know that if i ring someone and they don't answer, if it is something important or that needs a response i will always leave a message. I hardly ever ring without either leaving a voicemail or text if i get no answer.

NoArmani if i am ringing someone for a chat, i do leave a message just to say it was for a chat, and that there is no need to ring me back unless its convenient for them. I don't like leaving no message, i would rather let them know if it is something important or not.

Yanbu.

I sometimes call back in this situ, but depends who it is.

YANBU

When she says 'did you not get my call?' say 'No. Well, I mean the phone did ring, but there was no message to call back' and repeat until she learns.

Is she expecting you to phone 1471? What if someone else has called after her?

lol Biily i will have to start doing that.

No, she always rings on my mobile so i can see her number coming up as the missed call.

Depends who it is. Quite often my neighbour will call asking if I've had my post yet. I don't bother returning that one. If it's DP then I do as he only calls for a reason. My friend phones my mobile, then tries my landline, then FB messages me going 'are you there?!'

I think YABU as most voicemails are pointless. You know they rang and didn't get hold of you, why do you need to waste time listening to a message about that? Drives me nuts.

I will ring back or text to ask if it was important.