My dc doesnt wake until 9 am every morning... Piss off!

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Ok, so I am rather 'jel'. But I do tire of the incessant boasting , in RL esspecially, about peoples dc's and their epic sleep patterns... Yaaaawn!

Funny thing is, when asked what time their 1 year old dc goes to bed? 9pm!!! WTF? Where's your life?

Personally I much prefer dd in bed at 6 and up at 6, this way i actually hve an evening to myself :) (if she does go to bed at 7 she rises even earlier!) I don't go round boasting about how my dd is in bed at 6pm though, I just wouldn't...

It appears many love to boast about this topic in particular, which is non- sensical to me, as their dc is goin to bed ridiculously late IMO.

Sorry for the rant, but I do tire of this.

I would have loved it if DD had been an 8 - 8 sleeper.

That era is now past and I still have battles getting her to go to bed at a sensible time, especially on school days (she is nearly 14)

Cardibach with all due respect, I can differentiate between a statement and a good ole' stealth boast!

LOL none of my 3 slept much. Only now we are hitting the teen years the elder two have discovered the joy of snoring for hours. Sadly the wee one is only 5 and still sleeps very little .

My mum tells me it's a sign of intelligence in them all, whilst also telling me that I slept 12 hours a night from birth onward...

So 9pm!! WTF? Where's your life? Isn't a rant about someone else's choice? Hmmm?

Oooooooops!
Slightly bitter whenwriting this. Sorry?

Lol I should not have added that!

I must be the only person who can't wait for the dark nights because at least my 4 year old understands that it is night time. At the moment he goes up at 7pm much to his disgust, as he can hear other children still playing out. Even though he wakes early, at least we have child free evenings. I suppose it's whatever arrangements suit your family.

Yabu - judgy rather than accepting families are different. When does your dp see dc and how do you think it will work when your back at work.
Personally I don't get in from work til gone 6 - like many working parents. I would miss ds desperately if I don't get at least an hour or tow with him in the evening.
Our bedtime routine starts about 7 ish but ds can be a pain to go to sleep. Sometimes I can be sat not gradually retreating in a darkened room until 10! Tonight as he was tired we tried for 6.30 but still took until just now. His wake up time can vary everyday from 3 until 10. So sometimes I get a nice evening with dp and sometimes I get a lie in. Last night he slept 7.15 to 9 am so I got both he's nearly 2!

Hmm, I'm probably guilty of this. DS is 20 months and does 9:30 - 9:30. When friends talk about getting up at 6:30 (or earlier) I'm slightly aghast, I can't bare early starts myself. I don't care what they do, whatever works for them, but I can't help wincing when I hear about it.

I've never felt I 'need my evenings' btw. Generally I need my mornings more!

My DD1 slept from 7.30 pm on the dot every evening to 9.30 or 10am every morning from around 3 months. This was in addition to two lengthy naps in the day. I'll fuck off now. If it helps my DC2 wasn't a great sleeper.

Our goes to sleep about half eight to nine and wakes some nights about 3 am and again at seven am for the day

I don't boast or complain either.

I couldn't care less what other people's routines are.

Neither of my DSs has ever done a 12 hour stretch (now aged 14 and 10). 10 hours tops.

No need for me to be up 6 am. Live 5 mind from school and work till 1 am

I'm with you OP! Nothing more dispiriting to a sleep deprived mum or dad than someone boasting about how well their children sleep. I had a friend like this - for almost a year she went on and on about how her little boy slept in until 9 or 10 each morning and thought that our 6am starts were crazy. And then I finally discovered that her little boy went to bed when his parents did - so midnight at the earliest. This had NEVER been mentioned. No wonder he slept that 'well' - the poor little guy was knackered! (As witnessed when we went for drinks at theirs one night, along with a few other couples, everyone had got a babysitter but their little boy was up, tantruming as he was tired, but not allowed to go to bed).

I think the other thing that you need to consider is that depending on the approach you take to parenting, some people are bound to have 'better' sleepers than others. I'm British but live in the US. Here, Ferber is the norm and lots of mums I know follow a book called 12 hours at 12 weeks. There is no way on earth I would put my child through this. Cry it out is extremely common. My American mum friends think I'm crazy getting up every night to BF DC2 multiple times. I think they're cruel for imposing routine on their children so soon. (One friend told me she lay crying in her bed as her 8 week old lay screaming for her in another room in the middle of the night. But she did it for a week and now he sleeps through.) Personally, I'd rather be tired than ever put a tiny baby through that.

When DS1 was 1 he'd go to bed at 7.30, sleep through until 9am. Then he would have a 2 hour afternoon nap. I bloody loved it!

He's19 now and still likes his sleep.

DS2 liked early nights and would sleep until 7:30am. He was grouchy when he was tired, and we'd joke that if we told him it was bedtime at 4pm, he'd go and sleep until morning.

It's what suits your family isn't it? My sister kept her kids up until 10pm, I couldn't be doing with that.

Ach well, mine is 7.5 and wakes for hours every night, if it helps.

Had a good sleeper and a bad sleeper! Love love love a lie in oh my god I love sleep. Detest mornings, diabolical Sometimes feel alienated by morning people but don'lt care anymore - embrace your non-morningness!! x

My DC1 slept 7pm-9am but didn't nap during the day - so shall I apologise for that?
You just sound bitter- some DC (mine) were great sleepers at night and hated the daytime nap.

My DC2 would go to bed sometimes off his own back when at primary school- minor panic and ... Oh DS has gone to bed !

I'm with you OP! Nothing more dispiriting to a sleep deprived mum or dad than someone boasting about how well their children sleep.

but that isn't what's happening - it's just different sleep and wake times, that's all - it's not like the OP has a child who won't go to sleep till 9 but is up at 6 - it's 12 hours all round, just at different times!

If 6-6 works for you then I can't understand why you would care - 9-9 obviously works for other people. Personally I would hate your routine - I'm not an early bird and if DD went to bed at 6 DH would hardly see her. Right now we love the evenings in the park with DD, we were out till 7.30 on Friday evening with some nursery friends, it was great. 7pm tonight, the light in the park was gorgeous, people were having barbies, it was a lovely atmosphere.

DS(5) sleeps from 7.30pm till 7.30 am
He will sleep longer if not woken

DD(7) is a night owl and will easily stay awake until 10pm despite being put to bed at 8pm
She averages 9.30pm till 7.30 am
However she will always sleep much longer if not woken, probably 9.30am-ish given the opportunity

We're just lucky I guess. Wouldn't brag on fb about it though, makes us sound a bit slack!!

8-7.30ish here, which suits me perfectly. I'm not a morning person so I'd give up some evening if she started waking early - but no way could I give up the whole evening, those 2 hours toddler free are my sanity!

My mam used to put me to bed at 630 when it was light u hated it and was never tired, felt like I was awake for hrs listening to kids having fun outside. DD age 5 didn't come in from playing out till 8pm, shower supper, story and she's now flat out and up at 8 am. Older 2 are in bedroom watching tele.

I hate the boasters too. My dc do b asleep by 8ish but are awake anytime from 6am. Have tried the whole putting them to bed later but never works,they just get over tired then hyper then there's tears usually mine and for nothing as they are awake as per usual at the break of dawn

Do finishes work and is home for 4. So he has two hours with dc - just like most who would finish at 5 and dc go to bed at 7...

Dh*