I had a c section 4 days ago due to having a massive pph in my first pregnancy and massive terror this time. my aunt agreed to visit me in London and said she would look after my 4 year old on the day. She then said she would stay with a friend. I find her friend odd as she always comes everywhere with my aunt.
So on the day my aunt brought her friend and my 30 year old cousin. They kept asking when id be finished etc and generally really stressing me out. Anyway during the surgery, at the end, a uterine vessel burst and I had another major haemmorhage, crash call, transfusions etc. baby is gorgeous and fine. To be fair my aunt looked after my ds till about 8.30pm then dp went home. I had previously said please dont bring your friend to the hospital to see me, come on your own. She agreed, then the next day said can she bring my cousin. I reluctantly agreed. When she arrived her friend also came. Kept popping in and out of the room being weird. My aunt asked me if I minded so I told the truth that I did (friend out of room) and now aunt isnt talking to me. saying how great her friend had been etc. turns out friend was listening at door too.
I feel really bad for a) upsetting my aunt when she did kind of help me b) offending her friend and c) caring about what seems like a trivial thing when I should be really happy. she did kind of minimise my near death experiences which has also really upset me.
Was I being precious or rude Im really not sure now. Thanks for getting to the end and letting me have a self indulgent rant!