To question my friendship of a girl who wishes to vote bnp ...

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I just cannot get passed it. I have mixed race brothers and sisters. Shes plastering fb with her bnp posters ... Sigh.

AIBU to not want to be friends with her? We are not close, more acquaintances - but I feel I really want to distance myself as I feel almost a traitor remaining friends with someone who would vote in a racist, bigoted far right party ...

Noooo, the OP is posting crap that the BNP stand for to try and make her very dim acquaintance understand...

peachy sorry if I wasn't clear on that... I am saying I pointed this out to my friend as an arguememt as to why the hell you should not vote for these pigs.

She soon changed her mind :) I was shocked at how quick in fact. She admits she has no clue about politics etc

There are beliefs...and then there are beliefs which are intolerable in a civilised world.

So although I am an atheist I have lots of fantastic Christian, Muslim, and a couple of shaman friends, I don't share their beliefs but they are fantastic people.

But people who support the BNP? Fuck that.

Good for you in trying to make her see the truth of these people. What BNP / UKIP women don't get (probably because they are dim) is that that life will get very bad for them too with people like this in power. They will be treated as a minority too.

I would bring it up in conversation first as reasonably as you can. Think about it, if people who do this are never told they ABU then they never have the chance to see things from another point of view. Yet they carry on spreading their opinions and political views and so their politics gains in popularity. This is how communities become split.

I was thinking about this just this morning. A good friend used to live in a country which then had a war with the neighbouring country. She came back to the UK...but many of her friends there were killed - by their neighbours.

I think talking to people and being reasonable is really important. More important with people who have extreme views.

Being her friend though? No, I'm not saying invite her to your child's birthday party or confide any personal information with her.

I think you may have to unfriend her for being a bit thick. She's decided not BNP so she's going to try labour, mind you she's not keen on Moslems. Surely this is a person who has few redeeming features?

The trouble is- without giving too much away , she is the girlfriend of my dhs best friend.

We all regurlarly meet up as couples and catch up. I realise I dont have to be best buds with her, but I do feel if I told her how i really felt it would cause a rift and ruin the dynamics of all of our friendships. I would be the bad guy. But when I see her next I am going to bring it up and emphasise just how awful the bnp are and how offended I get by racist manifestos and the like. I shall also point out I have black friends and family.

Oh I see. Well in that case, it might be worth saying something if she brings up one of her prejudices. In a gentle but firm way. E.g. "Dh's GF, I know you're not intending to upset me, but as my family are mixed race I'm afraid it's painful when you say things like this."

Set your Facebook so she's an acquaintance and you don't have to say any of that shit.

Squeegle has a beautiful comeback for in case she spouts he shit at you in person.

She's an idiot. If she's that she shouldn't be allowed to vote.

Sarinka: generalising much about the millions of Labour party voters?

Sarinka are you seriously suggesting the BNP are an alternative point of view? Do you know what they stand for?

Total overreaction, just unfriend her if it affects you.

block her and post this to her timeline

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Hahahah! That video is epic!

YANBU, racism is unacceptable and I think you should tell her you don't share her silly racist views. Whether you want to carry on the friendship is entirely upto you but you don't want your mixed race family members being offended so maybe it's better not to bother with her.

It's just as bad to "only be Islamophobic" as it is to be a generally racist BNP supporter.

Did that video make anyone else think of another far right youth organisation?
Hitler youth!

Yes I know it is just as bad to be islamaohobic. Sorry if my pp suggested otherwise ...

JazzAnnNonMouse that's exactly what i said to the person that posted it on my wall! Those kids probably don't understand half of the words that have been put in their mouths either

Sorry OP for the confusion, i didn't think that viewpoint on rape fit in with your point anyway

I had a friend on Facebook who posted an extremely racist post.
When I (politely) challenged his views, he told me to wind my neck in and to unfriend him if I didn't like it.
I never got the chance to unfriend him though as he unfriended and blocked me straight away.
Problem solved!
Unfortunately I find Facebook can be the one place where you really discover the unpleasant side of some people.
I had no idea my friend had such disgusting views.

sarinka of course it was a figure if speech. The OP's friend is a racist- a strong opposition of that has nothing to do with supporting labour fgs. And I'm not a labour voter.

And voting for the BNP is thick. I said nothing about poor and uneducated- that isn't relevant. I think the existence of a racist party should b be banned. If they can't be, yes, people should be educated to understand policy and the voting system. Plenty of people understand neither and so their vote is guided by fear-mongering.