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At what point would you worry about the owner of this unmoved car?

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WhenIsItAndIshoo · 17/05/2014 07:41

I live in a block of flats, moved in a few weeks ago. Above me lives a woman the same age as me Id guess (late 20's, early 30's).
Theres a shared car park. Despite there being more flats than there are spaces, theres nearly always a space.

The woman who lives above parks her car randomly sporadically in all the No Parking spots, but moves it several times a day so its never there for more than half an hour so no one says anything.

However, she parked it in a very awkward No Parking bit (right in front of the sign) a week ago and hasnt come back for it, moved it, or seen the note someone left on there days ago asking her to move it. I havent seen her going in or out the flat in all this time.

I understand that she may have just buggered off on holiday without a second thought for where the car is parked but the thing that got a little distant bell ringing for me is that she has screaming rows with her cage fighting boyfriend regularly and publicly. I saw him leave her flat a week or so ago and again, havent seen him since.....

Im not saying he has killed her or anything, and I dont want to go knocking on doors or alerting anything since Ive only just moved in.
I want to keep the neighbours onside and not rile them, yet Im wondering if this woman is alright.

My friend who lives in the block thinks she is an arse hole so doesnt care. The woman drives up and down the car park like a maniac despite lots of toddlers walking by their parents to get to and from their home and cars and children playing out.

She rocks up at 2am and opens her car door to blaring music waking everyone in both buildings, so I totally understand that others dont care for her well being.

Yet Im worried.

Would you be?

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WhenIsItAndIshoo · 17/05/2014 07:42

That should read 'I moved in a few months ago'

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YellowStripe · 17/05/2014 07:43

I think a call to 101 would be in order.

TheFarceAndTheSpurious · 17/05/2014 07:44

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lucidlady · 17/05/2014 07:44

I would be worried. Do you have an intercom system or something you could ring to see if she answers?

momb · 17/05/2014 07:45

I'd tap on her door.

TheFarceAndTheSpurious · 17/05/2014 07:46

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Joules68 · 17/05/2014 07:48

Does she work?

Letterbox...? Where's her post?

Gennz · 17/05/2014 07:48

Yes I would be. I would knock on her door and if no one answers possibly contact the police. I'd rather be over-cautious than not.

LindyHemming · 17/05/2014 07:51

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BerniesBurneze · 17/05/2014 07:56

As you know whose car it is and it's been badly parked for a week you have a good excuse other than nosiness to knock on the door.

I'd knock for 2 days then call 101

AbsentDaughter · 17/05/2014 07:58

call for sure

WhenIsItAndIshoo · 17/05/2014 08:01

Ok I will knock today then. No I havent knocked at all. I thought I was being paranoid as I really over worry and over think things, so assumed I was just doing that.

We have an appointment at 10am so will knock at 11ish when we get back in case she is home and sleeping.

Will report back....

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WhenIsItAndIshoo · 17/05/2014 08:02

thefarce no noises. But in the months Ive lived here I havent heard a peep from anything and Im surrounded by children and adults. They are really, really well built.

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BoffinMum · 17/05/2014 08:03

I bet you she is on holiday, but certainly knock on the door and if she's there, just say you haven't seen her out and about and you were just checking she is OK. If ringing 101 police are quite helpful if you say it may be nothing but ....

The fact she is a bad neighbour and a nutty driver needs to be separated from the fact she may need help.

500smiles · 17/05/2014 08:07

Another one saying to knock

WhenIsItAndIshoo · 17/05/2014 08:46

Ok she isnt dead, shes just an arsehole.

She parked it there and buggered off on holiday. Her flat mate just told me when I rang the bell (I couldnt wait til later).

I dont feel so guilty for accidentally reversing into her car on Monday now.

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Raskova · 17/05/2014 08:49

Ha! That's quite funny. Naughty you Wink

littledrummergirl · 17/05/2014 08:50

Call the management company and have her towed!Grin

500smiles · 17/05/2014 17:58

Grin thanks for updating OP

specialsubject · 17/05/2014 18:01

good news she isn't ill or dead, and good of you to be concerned.

you can have her towed, but also leave a note explaining that you damaged her car and await her contact on her return to discuss.

samsam123 · 17/05/2014 21:54

'leave a note on her car' are you joking she shouldn't have parked it there

TaliZorahVasNormandy · 17/05/2014 22:06

Just have the car towed if its an inconvenience, if its not in a proper space, its technically abandoned.

FreeSpirit89 · 17/05/2014 22:35

Have it towed. That will teach her.

WhenIsItAnIshoo · 18/05/2014 17:45

I have zero intention of putting any note on her car telling her that I reversed into the vehicle.

I pulled into the car park on Saturday. Shortly after she parked behind me in a non-existent space in right in front of the 'No Parking' sign. I reversed out Monday morning and backed up into her. If she was a decent neighbour that didnt drive worryingly fast, and wake the neighbours at midnight most night with her music blaring from her car then I would have more respect for her and leave a note.

waits for 'you're as bad as her' posts

Conversely, even when theres several parking spaces in the designated areas she still parks it in the no parking zones. I dont get it, does she think she is above the rest of us? Lazy? I dont understand?

If she was driving a 6 month old Maserati then I might understand, not wanting others parked up close, opening doors against her car etc.

But she is driving a scuffed up, 12 year old Clio.

Despite this, Im glad she isnt dead.

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