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To be panicking about holiday alone with DD

94 replies

Anonynony · 17/05/2014 07:39

This seemed like such a good idea at the time.
DD is almost 3 and we generally have an absolute ball together. Money has been really tight lately but a while ago I booked a cheap little holiday to Majorca for us, it was an excellent deal and had visions of us playing by the pool, strolling in the sun, eating out etc but everyone has put a huge dampner on it for me telling me I'm nuts and I'll be bored still stuck in in the evenings when she's in bed.

My plan was for both of us to have a sleep in the day so she can have a slightly later bed time and that I could read, relax or maybe even have one glass of wine on the balcony)
As money is tight I was going to do a shop in the local supermarket and buy breakfast and lunch stuff so that we'll "only" need to eat out once a day. I haven't really had the funds to buy "holiday" clothes but have plenty of dresses I'd wear here with tights that I can just wear without them and so does she (she has piles actually)

I'm just really starting to stress out that it's going to be a horrible experience as everyone thinks I'm absolutely nuts. Please put my mind at ease or am I really crazy?

OP posts:
TheLowestFormOfWit · 17/05/2014 08:15

DP took DSD on holiday to the Canary Islands on his own when she had just turned three. They had a wonderful time. Go and enjoy it.

TheLowestFormOfWit · 17/05/2014 08:17

Just because you won't be getting sunburnt by the pool, eating fry ups in the Irish pub and drinking ten cocktails every evening doesn't mean you'll be bored in the evenings. Take loads of books. Sounds like bliss actually.

SpottieDottie · 17/05/2014 08:17

Holidays on your own with children are great, make the most of it and have a lovely time :)

Littleturkish · 17/05/2014 08:19

Sounds fabulous- have a great time!

Groovee · 17/05/2014 08:22

Everything will be fine.

TiredFeet · 17/05/2014 08:25

I have done this, we had a good time. The evenings felt a little lonely but I just read a book/watched a film. Was nice actually just thinking what me and ds (then 3 ) wanted to do and no compromising etc

AbneyorTeal · 17/05/2014 08:27

I really want to do this now!

gordyslovesheep · 17/05/2014 08:27

you will love it

I have been going alone with my three for the past 3 years (youngers was 3 then) and we have never been bored or sat alone in the evenings - we've made lovely friends and always had a great time

Thanks to Mr Gove I can't afford to do it this year - enjoy it while you can xxxx

gratefulforwhatihavegot · 17/05/2014 08:32

Steadyeddie was right they are jealous. Have you read before I go to sleep? you could have cocktail hour with nuts and olives and crisps and a big gin and tonic when she goes to sleep. Tell people to fuck off with their misery

elQuintoConyo · 17/05/2014 08:34

Sounds lovely - you get to what you want, when you want. DC has you to themselves all day, you can be relaxed about the times you nap/go to bed, the pool/beach are free and will tire them out! What's notto love?

Have a marvellous time!

kelda · 17/05/2014 08:35

I think it sounds lovely too - you will have a great time. Majorca is beautiful.

ginmakesitallok · 17/05/2014 08:38

Sounds great, why on earth would anyoine think this is nuts?

ginmakesitallok · 17/05/2014 08:39

Sounds great, why on earth would anyoine think this is nuts?

eddielizzard · 17/05/2014 08:40

i think it sounds brilliant!

Montegomongoose · 17/05/2014 08:41

I think this is less about being a single parent and all about being the kind of parent who takes off on adventures, loves spending time with your child and has the courage to go off and actually do something fun.

Good for you. Ignore the people being negative. If they can't be enthusiastic for you, then us assume they are just too scared and unimaginative to do similar.

Pity then and have an absolute blast!

BoffinMum · 17/05/2014 08:42

Remember you are automatically an hour ahead because of the time difference, which makes things easier.

Shewhowines · 17/05/2014 08:44

Not nuts at all. Have a great time.

KiaOraOAotearoa · 17/05/2014 08:49

DD and I have been on holiday together on our own about 15 times. I kid you not, it was the only way we could do it, we've always had to split our annual leave. Every time it has been absolutely fine and we had a ball.
Get everything ready from home. It is very doable, don't worry.

foslady · 17/05/2014 08:51

Suggest you read the holiday from hell companions thread and then you will see why what you are doing is a great idea! Done it a few times - why should holidays have to have 2 adults?Dd and I would never get away if that was the case.

Have a fab time - and the extra hour really does help in the evenings!

Caitlin17 · 17/05/2014 08:53

You'll be fine. Have fun and don't listen to the naysayers.

Needadvice5 · 17/05/2014 08:57

well done for planning something so lovely for the two of you! I'm sure you will have an amazing holiday!
enjoy xxxx

Ainmnua · 17/05/2014 09:01

Sounds good to me! I'd agree with a PP and bring a buggy, even though she's grown out of it now, it will help you transport DD home after a late evening.

BrokenStar · 17/05/2014 09:13

I've done this too, we had a fab time. Long lazy siestas, dinner out, playpark on way home, evenings spent reading which is how I enjoy spending my evenings on holiday anyway. Hoping to do it again this year.
You'll have a great time.

Original poster
Anonynony · 17/05/2014 09:24

I'm actually excited for the first time since booking!!

Everybody is saying about bringing the buggy, is it really that important yes? We haven't used it for such a long time I can't even imagine bringing it but so many people have suggested it there must be something in it?

Can't believe how much I'm looking forward to it now!

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Dancergirl · 17/05/2014 09:28

Some people are just killjoys. It sounds really fun. I don't think you'll be bored in the evening at all. Like you say dd can go to bed a bit later and you can sit and read and relax.

Are you in an apartment with a separate living area? You could watch a bit of tv in the evenings.

Sometimes children can be the best company, especially if it's just the two of you.

Have a great time.