After many, many weeks of feeling up the furniture DS finally plucked up the courage to take ten, yes ten, steps in a row on Thursday. As you can imagine I was (and still am) incredibly excited and proud.
He did it again a few minutes later and this time I managed to catch it on film, upload it to a shared cloud folder so his dad could see it as soon as possible, and let him know via text (wasn't going to ring while he was working) that his kid's reached what I consider to be possibly biggest milestones of his life so far.
Midnight on Friday and still no reply. Not even the tiniest acknowledgement or indication that he cares let alone bothering to look at the shared video. I find this quite strange as he's generally a good dad and we communicate well without any animosity whatsoever.
For a bit of background, we're not together nor do either of us want to be with eachother. We weren't even together when I found out I was pregnant and I asked him to walk away but he wanted to be involved.
DS spends a full day with him and his family once a week, occasionally with me there as it's nice for DS to see us all as HIS family rather than thinking he has two completely separate families. Have offered for him to be involved more but work seems to take up a lot of his time/seeing friends/generally being a normal guy in his mid-twenties, which is fair enough. He really is a great dad who loves DS very much and who DS quite clearly loves too, but sometimes, like this example, or when I've asked him to share photos, or sponsor DS for the Tommy's Sensathon, he can blow hot and cold which I could understand if it were about me but I worry that this is setting a bad precedent for the future.
Granted that it's probably a pretty busy week at work but AIBU in thinking that his child's first steps should trump everything else? And that both of us being DS's parents this should be something we can both share some happiness about without it being weird or any lines being crossed?
Or am I just being insensitive and maybe he feels bad that he missed out on it and that's why he hasn't bothered to say anything?
Either way he's having DS overnight on Sunday as I'm on a trip so would be nice if you guys could help me rationalise my annoyance so I don't end up making stupid, irrational and unnecessary digs at him when checking in on DS just because he's pissed me off.
(Sorry - that turned out to be longer than anticipated!)