Some men can be knobs at times.

[TerrifiedMothertobe]

Have a fantastic dh, great with kids, great bubbie, love him To Bits. But, sometimes I wonder why men are such knobs.

He loves his iPad, maybe a bit too much. Spends too much time surfing inane crap. Always annoys me. But, tonight I got so pissed when we were enjoying last of sun, glass of vino, eldest ds pottering about and we are chatting. He starts bloody surfing, I make a small protest about being antisocial and he mumbles something about escapism and making inane conversation.

Now, he's not a bad man, but what a twat, I'm so furious/ annoyed/ hurt. I know he probably didn't mean it (he's good at foot in mouth), but, really?

So annoyed, first time in years I've walked off and not spoken to him all night, knob.

It does make a difference whether the items were purely for him or things he'd bought to share with the OP or that he knew the OP would like.

How would you like it if I extrapolated from your behaviour that all women are pathetic, needy and self centred?

It is indeed a real shame that you couldn't raise your concerns and frustrations here about a specific person without being derogatory to all men. Not sure how it's an AIBU question either, but your title is definitely unreasonable, whether or not you like his behaviour.

Are they not Compos?

Well I never.

Women always seem to generalise

We actually have a great relationship, but it does annoy me that he spends a disproportionate amount of time surfing his pad. I'm sorry I just think that it's rude when it's clearly catch up time and I have repeatedly mentioned it's an issue!

Toffee, u think you get it. Although not sure I can sympathise on the supermarket issue, sounds like a good gesture.

And, I always have another glass of wine ;)

I totally sympathise on the supermarket thing. We can be nearly out of milk, bread, nappies, washing powder, as evidenced by the list on the fridge, and he'll stroll in with a bag full of chocolate biscuits, beer, pizza and odds and ends from the reduced section.

We've changed the title of this thread as several people were offended by the gender stereotyping and it seemed to be detracting from the original question of what does and does not constitute knobbish behaviour.
As you were.

YANBU. Although I think phones/tablets etc are wonderful, they can also make people pretty anti-social as demonstrates. Relationships need work, and that involves connecting with the other person, not burying your head in your phone as much as possible.

I know what you mean OP but both me and my husband are guilty of it at times.

It really hit home last night how bad this love of our smart devices has become.

Hubby and I were sat at the back of a 400 seat theatre last night and when the interval came, both if us quickly bunged on a status update on Facebook and then put the phones away and started discussing what we'd just watched. In a lull in the conversation we looked across the theatre and were shocked at the vast amount of phones on with people not even talking to the people they were with.

So sad

"Both of us quickly bunged a status update on Facebook."

Saying what? I'm at the theatre? Why did you need to do that?

You're no better than anyone else in that theatre if the first thing you think to do when the curtain falls on Act 1 is let your friends know it's the interval?

Lol little peas!!!! :-)

Why was the OP title changed? It clearly said men are nobs

Which obviously is wrong. But it makes the posters typing against it seem stupid

perhaps he just finds you boring

Not all men.

Maybe you could have a special hat that you could put on for, say, an hour every week which would be called the catching up hat. When one of you, by which I mean you, dons the hat the other has to let them drone on feigning interest until the time is up. A bit like that Fosters advert with the 'paddle of rebuke'.

Wow, I am suprised at your reactions! I don't think I communicated my frustrations too well. But anyway, thanks for your passionate responses!

Just get the hat.