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Original poster

to think this woman should not have been arrested? WARNING -disturbing content *edited by HQ*

26 replies

deakymom · 15/05/2014 20:09

rtlec.co.uk/baby-airlifted-to-hospital-mother-arrested-for-overlaying/

okay, this lady had her twins in bed with her one of them died they think because she rolled over in her sleep she is a single parent (so doing everything i assume herself) and she has been arrested i'm having trouble with this i feel its wrong to arrest her for an accident what is everyone elses view?

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CoffeeTea103 · 15/05/2014 20:12

Seems like there is a lot more to the story.

AnyaKnowIt · 15/05/2014 20:13

How tragic

AElfgifu · 15/05/2014 20:16

yes she should be arrested. If she did something criminal, that has to come out in the investigation, and if she did not, she needs to be quickly and publicly exonerated.

roguenight · 15/05/2014 20:17

YABU the police are investigating the circumstances and they believe there is sufficient evidence to suggest that criminal action may need to be taken against the mother so they have arrested her and now they are going to question her.

kinkyfuckery · 15/05/2014 20:17

There's definitely more to the story. They don't arrest for an obvious accidental smothering, do they? Your OP says they were in bed, the article says they were co-sleeping, yet the baby was found dead in the livingroom?

Plumpippin · 15/05/2014 20:18

I read that she was intoxicated, can't remember where I read it though. Very tragic whatever the circumstances.

Sirzy · 15/05/2014 20:18

I would imagine there is an awful lot more to the story.

Nomama · 15/05/2014 20:19

Yes, she should have been arrested, she was present at the time of an unexplained/unexpected death.

FIL was arrested when MIL committed suicide as he was in the house at the time and made and incoherent statement. The arrest status gives the person arrested certain protections, it isn't a wholly punitive action.

itiswhatitiswhatitis · 15/05/2014 20:19

Too little info to speculate at this point.

SaucyJack · 15/05/2014 20:20

Maybe she was drunk/off her tits?

phantomnamechanger · 15/05/2014 20:23

a baby is dead, the police have a job to do to find out what happened.

very sad but we do not know all the facts

I also think your thread title could do with some sort of warning

BoomBoomsCousin · 15/05/2014 20:23

The Mirro says she was drunk - www.mirror.co.uk/news/uk-news/mum-arrested-suspicion-accidentally-suffocating-3544009

Canthisonebeused · 15/05/2014 20:23

Depends on the circumstances. Maybe she was drunk or had used drugs. Very tragic though.

BoomBoomsCousin · 15/05/2014 20:25

Actually the Mirror says Overlaying is the crime of suffocating your baby by lying on it while you are drunk. They do not say the woman was drunk, but the implication is that the police have reason to believe she was drunk.

OhMerGerd · 15/05/2014 20:33

How sad. I would imagine drunk or not that is one devastated woman today.
There but for the grace of God and all that. Until we know different my condolences are with her.

Birdsgottafly · 15/05/2014 21:10

"There's definitely more to the story. They don't arrest for an obvious accidental smothering, do they"

Yes they do.

As said, if an unexpected death happens and those present refuse questioning, then they are arrested.

If your baby died and you had another one of the same age, would you be thinking straight enough to want to leave your remaining child, or dead baby, to go to a Police station?

We had a situation in my family (I have written about this before), were it took months for the Mum to be cleared, her picture had been in a local paper. The baby died from a rare form of Broncolitus (SP).

There is another story about a baby killed by the Step Father, although the mother wasn't present at the time if death, she had been arrested and her subsequent baby, that she was pregnant with removed until the child was over a year old.

I wish that it was common knowledge that the arrest of Parents/Carers can be routine.

Birdsgottafly · 15/05/2014 21:12

Just to add, until the autopsy (always performed on a child), there isn't a presumed cause of death.

Coldlightofday · 15/05/2014 21:17

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Message withdrawn at poster's request.

Original poster
deakymom · 15/05/2014 21:32

sorry if you dont think its appropriate for aibu you all talk about people who die all the time they are all peoples children just report the thread and have it deleted im so sick of this site anyway

by the way thanks for the people who actually explained why she might have been arrested i missed the part where she might have been drunk i just read co-sleeper arrested

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gimcrack · 15/05/2014 22:45

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gimcrack · 15/05/2014 22:46

Grr, phone.
None of us know. This is subjudice.

Icimoi · 15/05/2014 23:52

Yes, she should have been arrested, she was present at the time of an unexplained/unexpected death.

The police really don't arrest people just on this basis.

MexicanSpringtime · 16/05/2014 01:51

Honestly I wouldn't trust a brief newspaper article to know the facts of the case, reporters are notoriously bad at getting the facts straight.

PrincessBabyCat · 16/05/2014 02:06

There may be circumstances that they aren't reporting to the press. Police keep a lot of details to themselves until the investigation is over if they can help it.

ComposHat · 16/05/2014 03:10

Is this really AIBU fodder? This is insufficient evidence to know what happened on the basis of a very short article from a tabloid, a criminal investigation is now underway. Let's all just leave it there for the time being shall we?