I have name changed as I have real life friends on mumsnet and I don't want to share this with people who know me/us.
I found some porn on my dp's phone yesterday, it was video he had downloaded, nothing speacial just a standard porn video.
I was trying to uplaod a photo of our child onto his facebook, we are very open with each other's phones, I often upload videos/photos onto his facebook if I grab his phone before mine. The porn video came up along side the photos I had just taken of dc.
I looked at his download folder and there were 4 other videos he had downloaded in the last 6 months.
I'm pregnant, dp didn't want to have with me in the 1st tri (he felt the same when I was pregnant previously) he seems to like my changing shape but not relaly find me sexy, we have had sex a couple of times in the last couple of months but probably once a month, as I get bigger I expect things will get even quieter in terms of sex until I am desperate for the baby to come out, then we will hopefully have lots of sex as that is what helped evict the last baby Some of the videos were downladed before I became pregnant so it isn't just a recent thing.
I am not sure how I should feel, I feel sad that I'm not enough for him, I feel a bit disapointed that he would support an industry which is not so respectful to women (although the films were amature and self filmed, but then that makes me think maybe the women in the films don't even know, hopefully they do know and did it for fun) I am glad that he is not feeling the need to have sex with other women. I obviously don't have the right to demand he does or doesn't do anything with his own body/sexuality.
What is the reasonable emotional response to your partner looking at porn? I don't want to under/over react.