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Parent walking round naked.

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modified89 · 15/05/2014 07:53

My mum loves to walk around naked and it is really making me uncomfortable, I've tried addressing the issue but no real luck.
Is there any ways that I may not of tried, that may help?

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Canus · 15/05/2014 07:59

Assuming you are both adults, all you can do is ask.

Is she desperate for you to move out? Is she desperate to move out?

Has she always been the naked type, but you are finding wrinkles unsightly?

Perhaps throw a bedsheet over her whenever you spot the naked apparition. That will provide a few laughs... or something.

magpiegin · 15/05/2014 08:45

Are you both adults? Are you living in her house?

Unless there are any mitigating reasons I don't see a problem in a grown lady walking around her house with as many or as little clothes as she wants.

UriGeller · 15/05/2014 08:57

Has she always done it? How old is she? It can be indicative of a deeper issue if she's only recently started doing it. But if she's a free-roaming hippie then you'll just have to put up with it.

SuperSophie · 15/05/2014 09:31

Video her on your phone, show her the video and tell her if she does it again it's going on YouTube.

littlemslazybones · 15/05/2014 09:39

Maybe you should address your own issue with her nakedness? Why does it bother you?

dawndonnaagain · 15/05/2014 09:45

If it's her house I don't see the problem, well, apart from your problem with nudity. Sounds like you need to grow up a wee bit.

diddl · 15/05/2014 09:50

Is she naked all the time then?

pointythings · 15/05/2014 10:36

If she's always done it, then I'm afraid the problem lies with you. She can wear as much or as little as she wants in her own house.

AllDirections · 15/05/2014 11:21

Is that you DD1? Blush

MargotLovedTom · 15/05/2014 11:55

Ha AllDirections - my dd (10y) has taken to averting her eyes and inadvertently going 'Ew' when she catches me in the buff. Mind you I don't tend to stroll round nekkid so it's not about me.

Xihha · 15/05/2014 12:04

My mum used to wander round naked all the time, the only way not to keep seeing it that I ever found was to move out.

Providing the nakedness is in her own house I'm not sure there's anything you can or even should do other than address your own issues as to why it makes you uncomfortable.

feathermucker · 15/05/2014 12:20

What will 'help' is you getting over it ;)

What is the issue?

Caitlin17 · 15/05/2014 13:26

OP if it's her house and you're an adult living with her you're probably stuck with it. If it's your house tell her to get dressed.

If it's her house but you are not an adult and you have no choice in staying there I think she's being very selfish.

I don't think you have issues. Very few people look good naked. Most people don't wander around naked. I don't know anyone who does.

SolidGoldBrass · 15/05/2014 13:29

OK, if this is a new thing and she is elderly it could be a cause for concern (possible start of dementia) but if she likes to be naked in her own home, tough shit. None of your business.

BuzzardBird · 15/05/2014 14:00

All if she is your DD, can you tell her that it is 'have' not 'of'. Grin

caruthers · 15/05/2014 14:17

Seeing your parents naked isn't usual is it?

I'd struggle with seeing my mother potter around naked all the time and I don't think i'm alone in that.

Although there is little you can do about it other than voice a concern.

pointythings · 15/05/2014 14:22

caruthers it depends, really. In Holland (where I'm from) we don't have a lot of hangups around nudity. My parents didn't walk around starkers during the day, but they slept naked and didn't put anything on if they needed the loo in the night, or went for a shower in the morning. Neither my sister not I were ever worried by it.

gamerchick · 15/05/2014 14:23

wait is this real? Or are you from that forum that was trolling us yesterday or something?

Or are you just after storys?

BigRedBall · 15/05/2014 14:25

Oooooh I have an idea! Let's all share our nakey stories!

Who wants to go first?

caruthers · 15/05/2014 14:26

pointythings I hear you and from your point of view I can see where you get your values which are obviously more open than mine.

But I can't think of one instance where i've seen someone naked in their own house or people talking about seeing their parents naked as the norm.

Maybe i'm trapped in the stiff upper lip syndrome that Brits suffer from Smile

Sazzle41 · 15/05/2014 14:35

Is it a hippy chick 'child of nature' thing or a narcissistic, exhibitionist thing? If its her house and it bothers you , you have to 'deal' or leave i suppose, as her house, her rules. Though mania/psychotic episodes/alzheimers can all induce random stripping off if its recent and thats what bothers you as well. I do think most of us look better without bits jiggling about tho!

cestlavielife · 15/05/2014 14:37

is she german?

Whitewaters · 15/05/2014 14:40

caruthers Thank you!! I was starting to wonder if I was the only one.

I have never seen my parents naked, and would never want to. And my mum would never dream of walking around naked in front of me, I'm sure.

Now perhaps I'm a little bit unusual in that I would never walk around my own home naked. Definitely definitely no chance of me being naked when other people are there (including DH).

I've always wondered when I see threads like this on Mumsnet - what if someone knocks on the door? Do you put clothes on?

Presuming most people wouldn't be naked in front of the gas man, suggests there must be a level of privacy to it. So not unreasonable to not want to see your mum in that way.

If it's her house, there's nothing you can do though, other than telling her your uncomfortable with it and ask her not to.

Shockers · 15/05/2014 14:46

Not much going on today DS? It's my house and I'll be as bare as I like in it.

Blithereens · 15/05/2014 14:50

DM used to do this. I hated it. She also used to poo with the door open. UGH. I imagine she still does, actually, but I'm not there to see it Grin

When she comes to stay here she's decent UNLESS her BFF comes too, and then as long as my DH isn't here they parade around naked together, trilling songs in the bathroom like they think they're at boarding school Hmm