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Original poster

To be livid DD was made to throw her homemade cake in the bin

28 replies

justkeeponsmiling · 14/05/2014 23:30

Last Friday DD1 made a Victoria sponge during her cookery class in school.
About 15 mins after coming home from school DD was picked up by xh's mother to spend the weekend with her paternal grandparents. Xmil turned vegan a few years ago, as did xh and his gf. Xpil is still eating meat.
DD wanted to take half her cake with her, as she hadn't had a chance to try it and thought ger grandfather would like to try it, so I put half in a box for her to take.
Tonight, DD told me she hadn't tried her cake, her grandfather had a piece and said it was lovely but she "hadn't been allowed to try it" as it wasn't vegan, so the rest went in the bin...
WTAF?
Fuckers!

OP posts:
BlackeyedSusan · 14/05/2014 23:38

no. bastards, that is cruel

Lemongrab · 14/05/2014 23:44

How bloody dare they, I'd be livid too!
I'm angry on your and your daughter's behalf. Bastards.

AllDirections · 14/05/2014 23:47

YANBU

Vile people Sad

If it was ok for your DD's grandfather to have a piece why wasn't it ok for her too?

RedPony · 14/05/2014 23:49

Shock yanbu! just because sone of them are vegan it does not mean they should stop your dd eating what she wants (to a reasonable extent of course) and especially something she had made herself.

Gruntfuttock · 14/05/2014 23:54

Hve you spoken to them about it/ It was a horrible, pointless thing to do.

ChasedByBees · 14/05/2014 23:55

Shock that's horrible!

Original poster
justkeeponsmiling · 14/05/2014 23:56

It's just beyond me how you can do that to a child! I'm a vegetarian but I would never deny my children food they want to eat/try - they are only kids ffs!
I told my DD never mind, she can make a new one this w.end and we will all enjoy it!
alldirections that's because her grandfather is old enough to tell the rest of the family to fuck off when they start with their sanctimonious shite. I'm really disappointed though that he didn't stand up for DD.

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TwelveLeggedWalk · 14/05/2014 23:56

Fuckers. And hypocritical fuckers at that.
I'd send her in something like Lady Gaga's meat frock next time she seems them.

UncleT · 14/05/2014 23:57

I declare today to be vegan monster day here on MN! Grin

Original poster
justkeeponsmiling · 15/05/2014 00:04

YY to meat-frock! Great idea, am tempted!

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PrincessBabyCat · 15/05/2014 04:05

Forget the fact that they're vegan.

She worked hard to bake a cake and they made her throw it away.

Cunts.

hellokittymania · 15/05/2014 04:17

Yanbu, your poor Dd!

Delphiniumsblue · 15/05/2014 06:30

Very sad and a horrible thing to do to a child. Apart from anything else she is old enough to decide for herself whether she is a vegan or not. Not much you can do however - they will realise eventually that she isn't vegan and that sort of behaviour is hardly likely to make her one!

Deathraystare · 15/05/2014 11:36

Oh Dear! A lot of vegan bashing on mn recently!!!

However, I do not understand why they had to throw it away. Just make sure it is wrapped in foil in the fridge for when Grandpa and your DD fancied a slice.

Perhaps it is because they are new converts. Or just bloody mean spirited.

Grandpa probably did not say anything because he wanted a quiet life!

I hope your DD gets to make another cake and you can all enjoy it.

Joylin · 15/05/2014 11:39

Yanbu, that was nasty of them.

Gileswithachainsaw · 15/05/2014 11:39

This has nothing to do with being vegan and everything to do with being bloody mean.

I was vege/vegan fir years. Still managed to cook and serve meat and dairy fir others.

And coped with living in a house of unsuitable food. It's life.

Miggsie · 15/05/2014 11:41

Ask them for the cost of the ingredients - they should not have thrown it in the bin, it should have been wrapped and sent home with your DD if they couldn't bear to look at it.
Have they apologized?

I would be TELLING them to apolgise to your DD and cough up the money for ingredients so she can make another.

There is no need to enforce your views on others in this way. A child's cake should not be thrown away. Are they always so insensitive and mean?

OwlCapone · 15/05/2014 11:42

It is not your XMILs place to decide your DD has to eat vegan food,

OwlCapone · 15/05/2014 11:51

Or rather can not eat non-vegan food.

HavantGuard · 15/05/2014 11:53

What Giles said. This isn't about veganism it's about being shitty to a child. If they want her eating vegan when she's with them they could have put it in the cupboard and sent it back with her.

CatsCantTwerk · 15/05/2014 11:53

That is awful! What a horrid way to treat a child Sad

IdealistAndProudOfIt · 15/05/2014 12:33

On top of the nastiness, does that mean they're making your dd eat vegan when she's with them, even with their own mixed habits? Are you happy with that?

Not wanting to pour oil on a fire, but... Guess I just did. I'd question them about that though too.

Gileswithachainsaw · 15/05/2014 13:25

I don't think that the mil cooking vegan or everyone is an issue. I wouldn't expect two meals cooked. Vegan food is perfectly nice and perfectly edible and won't do any harm over a weekend stay. But that shouldn't mean that if the grand daughter brings something with her or wants to buy something, that she shouldn't be allows to eat it or have the option.

Ie if she had a piece of cake to share with her grandad or a chocolate bar in her bag, or wants to buy a slice of pizza bread from greys after swimming or wants to order a burger or cheese toastie if they go out for lunch then she had no right to refuse or make an issue out of it.

Respecting she doesn't want to cook meat is reasonable. I did it but I was ok with it. But throwing food awAy when your charge isn't vegan isn't on

Gruntfuttock · 15/05/2014 13:30

OP, have you tackled them about it?

Delphiniumsblue · 15/05/2014 17:22

Anyone can eat vegan when with vegans, it isn't an issue. What is the issue is that she is quite free to do as Giles gives as examples. The cake could have been put back in the tin to take home.