When I first met my DH he was in the forces and was deployed a lot. While he was away I wrote to him every day without fail, even when working shifts etc. I think out of all the deployments he went on I only received 3 letters from him. On a few occasions he admitted that he had opportunities to write to me but didn't as he simply didn't know what to say so it would go a few weeks without hearing anything from him. I was upset that I did not hear from him, I accepted that this was due to the circumstances that he was in.
DH left the army a couple of years ago and has found a new job that also requires a certain amount of travelling, albeit more flexible. He has still continued to be rubbish with communication, the first few days he would call every day but it would soon fade off. I have told him how important communication is to me while he goes away, even if it is just a quick email to say he is thinking of me. I do try and call/contact him but it often goes unanswered for days at a time. We will end up having a conversation about it when he gets back and he promises that next time will be better.
We now have a 6 Month old DS and he is currently away on the first longish trip since he was born (3 weeks). Things started off well and he called/skyped every day, however the past few days he seems to have disappeared again, I managed to get through to him yesterday but we only had a very brief conversation as he was on the way out for dinner with his work colleagues and he promised to call me back later which never happened. It makes me feel really awful, I am here on my own with DS in a relatively new area with few friends and no family around so I would really appreciate something from him. I feel so frustrated that he knows it's important to me but just continues. I would have thought he would at least would want to hear about DS.
He is fine when he is home, no complaints, it's just when he is away, however the longer he goes away the more he gets paid and we need the money. But we need to keep our relationship running while he is away.
AIBU to think that he is being a bit rubbish, I don't think this will change all the while he is going away, or do I sound a bit clingy?