To feel really sad about giving away the baby gear, even though I don't want more children?

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I have two lovely DC, and now that DD is 3, I have finally got round to selling off/donating some of our baby gear. The thing is, I feel really rotten about it, I thought I was going to cry after the Ergo went.

I do get broody when I see little babies, and think about how nice it is to cuddle a newborn, but I know that when I think about the reality of having another baby, it's not something I really want. We're all moving along nicely - one of the reasons I want to sell the stuff is to help buy some camping equipment - a new found hobby now that they are a bit older.

We're all happy and healthy, life is pretty good right now, I do count my blessings, but can't deny that I just feel a bit sad about it all. Feels like an early mid life crisis or something! DH thinks I'm torturing myself mentally for no good reason, doesn't seem to affect him in the same way. AIB completely U or has anyone else had a similar experienice?

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Ha god knows what happened there!

I felt the same! I've kept some really tiny stuff!

Completely with you OP. I'm exactly the same and my ds's are nearly 6 and 4

experience, not experinice!

End of an era, end of a stage in your life, YANBU to feel sad. No more little downy headed baby, no more sleepless nights and endless howling either.
I danced down the street punching the air when my son started primary school, but had to stop the car I was crying so much when he went to uni. Funny how it takes you, sometimes.

I know what you mean! Although in my case I hang on to it as it would be just my luck to have got rid of it all and then get pregnant! We don't want any more but it wouldn't be unwelcome (iyswim). I have kept some of the more special stuff.

yanbu, I've got three dc, I'm in the process of getting rid of loads of stuff, and it's breaking my heart.

in my case though, I'd have loads more, it's dh who doesn't want any more.

YANBU at all.
We have ds2 who is 6 months.
We may try for a third dc when ds2 is around 5 yrs old (ds1 is 6 yrs old), however I have decided to pass along/ sell the baby stuff as we go along, rather than keeping it for the next one as we did with ds1.

I just can't cope with the horrible finality of being unable to conceive dc3 (we struggled hugely both times with ds1 and 2) or even deciding not to have a third dc, and then cleaning out the baby stuff. It seems less traumatic to pass it all along now and then buy some new bits should we need to in the future.

I think my DH thinks I'm a bit crazy and hormonal, but he's going along with it anyway - he's just glad not to have to store a load of baby stuff for another 5/6 years I suspect!!

Yep, I cried for a couple of days before doing a mum2mum sale!!! I am perfectly happy with my family, I feel it's complete- definitely don't want anymore... It's just a start of a new chapter..

YANBU. DS5 is our last and I'm fine with that but I don't want to get rid of the baby stuff. Maybe I'll just keep it all and buy one of those weird looking dolls

I could have wrote this. I'm hoping I 'get over' this soon but have a feeling it's something that stays with you.

Sorry to be no help but just wanted to let you now you're not alone

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Well, I'm glad to know I'm not the only one going through this! Thanks for the support!

I can NOT pass on my Kari-me. I almost did, I picked it up... and put it back in the cupboard! DD2 is 2.7 now, and still uses the Ergo, so that's ok (phew!)

YANBU, we have 2 DC, DH doesn't want anymore., I would have liked 1 more but can see all of the logistical, financial etc arguments for stopping at 2. What I find really hard is that for all of my life being pregnant and having a baby was always part of my future and there was always a sense of excited anticipation. My pregnancies were over so quickly and now suddenly having babies is part of my past and not my future.

I can't see me getting rid of anything for a couple of years at least, I will just hoard it all in the loft.

YANBU. I have two children and don't want any more. I'm clearing out all the baby stuff now (DD is 18 months) and there are some things I just can't give away. I have a small box for tiny things I really want to keep and have just had to toughen up about the rest.

I feel exactly like this. I have 2 DC's and work part time and have a great balance. If we had another I'd absolutely have to quit my job - and I can't bear to do it. Really happy with having 2 kids and don't really want another, bar this niggle in the back of my head which stops me passing on all my lovely baby stuff. Makes it harder than DH and I are both from families of 3, and my Dsis has 3.

Well put greensunrise re: part of your past not your future. I agree. I have felt the same way about other things in life. Wedding, university etc I still feel a bit wistful when I see students arriving in uni towns in late September - all the promise and potential!