Bit of background, my husband is moody. Fairly uncommunicative, very deep, doesn't chat away like I do. Always has been, probably always will be. He is lucky I am a very laid back person so ignore most of his sulks and simply don't let them get to me. As quick as he can be moody, then the cloud will lift then he's ok again
I blew my top today though over what will probably sound like a ridiculous things but here goes.
A few weeks ago I won a £50 voucher for a local garden centre. Now we've recently had our garden landscaped and I remembered him saying that he'd like to fit some trellis to our fence and grow a clematis across it.
Last week then we went along to the garden centre to use the voucher and I suggested getting some plants for the garden, a clematis and some trellis.
It was obviously one of those days as he was as unhelpful as possible. All one word answers to everything. I asked whether we should get a trellis, a clematis but he was just replying 'I don't know'. Now I'm not a gardener but he's always done the planting etc. so I was asking what we should buy? Where do you plant them etc but all I was met with was either silence or I don't know. I asked him what he had planned for the garden and he said 'nothing'. Well I thought you wanted a trellis and clematis I said - he just shrugged, whatever, he said. He just trailed around the shop after me offering no advice or talking to me about anything
So I was running around trying to find things to buy to make up to the £50 as I'd picked up some plants and I though sod it, I liked the idea of a clematis so I bought one. When we got home I didn't know what to with the clematis so I looked online then planted it in a pot to trail it up our fence. He hasn't mentioned it at all.
Today I get home from work and he's been to the garden centre and bought trellis and a clematis and fitted it to a fence on the opposite side of the garden!!!
So I blew and said why the hell have you gone and spent money on something that we could have had for free if he'd taken interest in the garden centre this week. He obviously had mentally planned what he wanted to do so why couldn't he just talk to me and share his plans? Why would you behave like this? Is it a control thing? This is typical behaviour from him, he can be a childish knob at times!