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AIBU?

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Original poster

To think this mum is thick and/or entitled?

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gimcrack · 14/05/2014 17:05

Watching DS1 when an older kid from his school starts escorting him across the park. DS2 and I go after him, to find the kid's mother has asked for DS1 as she wants to kick his football into a tree to knock down her son's ball.

She didn't like it when I stopped them and pointed out that it was quite likely that our football would also get stuck in the tree.

AIBU to think that taking advantage of a five-year-old is not ok? Particularly as he was likely to lose his own ball?

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Canus · 14/05/2014 17:08

It's not something I'd give a second thought to. Perhaps her plan C was to scuttle up the tree to retrieve both balls - maybe she's a fun type!

I think MN encourages people to see entitled/narcissistic/issue-induced behaviour everywhere.

Sometimes people just have brainwaves - it seems a jolly decent attempt to get a ball back to me

EverythingsDozy · 14/05/2014 17:09

I would be furious that she encouraged her son to pull my son away without telling me, if I were you!
How stupid of her!
Plus, using a ball to get a ball out? Errrr, no, it's called a stick! I speak from experience when I managed to get two dog toys and a lead stuck in a tree! I did get them out eventually, oh what fun!!

Lackland · 14/05/2014 17:13

Yanbu to be annoyed. No one should take advantage of a small child like this.
Calling her thick and entitled isn't terribly nice though.

usuallysuspect · 14/05/2014 17:15

Sounds like she had a plan to me.

I would have offered to help her get the ball out of the tree.

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gimcrack · 14/05/2014 17:18

I suggested she use a stick. She told me there weren't any. I pointed out the various places a stick could be found in a park with bushes and trees.

I couldn't help her any further due to carrying an ill toddler.

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TitusFlavius · 14/05/2014 17:23

I don't think the ball is important, but I don't like the idea of a parent encouraging an older child to enlist a 5-year-old for anything. The mum should have asked you if she could borrow your ball for a mo.

WooWooOwl · 14/05/2014 17:25

YANBU, she sounds very thick.

Who in their right mind asks an unknown 5yo to walk away from the place where they're playing without talking to the parent?

Deverethemuzzler · 14/05/2014 17:51

Seems a bit of a weird thing to get annoyed about.
I suppose you had to be there.

PrincessBabyCat · 14/05/2014 17:59

Entitled over a ball...

I don't think that word means what you think it means.

rinabean · 14/05/2014 18:01

Yes. She is also a child abuser and a tax evader and the reason for the downfall of society.

Are you jealous that she's better at kicking footballs than you or something? It's a perfectly legitimate way to get a stuck ball out a tree, it was also perfectly okay for you to not want to risk yours.

itiswhatitiswhatitis · 14/05/2014 18:09

Gah really wish the over use of the word entitled on MN would stop now. Especially in this scenario where it isn't even relevant to the situation at all!

DurhamDurham · 14/05/2014 18:11

I would have helped.

Then forgotten about it straight away.

SpringBreaker · 14/05/2014 18:14

come on OP, please explain why you think she was "entitled".. I am dying to hear it..

nicename · 14/05/2014 18:20

I usually find that whenever you start hurling sticks, etc at a tree to retrieve a ball, frizbee, shoe, hat, sock, pants, small child (kidding) you get a gaggle of teens come to your aid, and someone ends up dislodging the item of shimmying up the tree for you.

Every single time.

TheScience · 14/05/2014 18:23

So she said to her son "go and see if that boy over there will let us kick his ball up to knock yours down"?

The thick, entitled bitch.

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gimcrack · 14/05/2014 19:36

So I am being unreasonable because it's ok to tell a little kid to give you their ball, even though it's likely they will never see it again?

It is a massive tree - not climb able. Her kid's ball was a small one on some sort of cord that she said had been up there a week. It wasn't going to come down.

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Mim78 · 14/05/2014 19:46

Thick, I think.

Deverethemuzzler · 14/05/2014 21:01

Who cares?
Really.

Nothing happened.
It doesn't matter.
Worst.AIBU.EVER.

Original poster

gimcrack · 14/05/2014 21:05

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SavoyCabbage · 14/05/2014 21:16

Using other balls to get stuck balls out of trees is an age old method. It can be quite fun too.

GroupieGirl · 14/05/2014 23:11

I don't think I've ever seen someone biscuit their own thread before...

hmc · 14/05/2014 23:16

You are over thinking this OP

Wooodpecker · 14/05/2014 23:20

Granted it's a bit odd but I would have thought she hadn't think it through.

What is it with this entitled nonsense everywhere on here? I never hear people say that word in that context in RL. It just seems to get thrown around on here for anyone who comes across as faintly out of order or have done something that previously would have been a bit odd but not given a second thought.

SpringItOn · 14/05/2014 23:36

Jesus wept. That is all.

TitusFlavius · 15/05/2014 08:22

I have to ask: is biscuitting a thread some sort of arcane MN code that I haven't worked out yet?

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