To think it would be quite nice

[TequilaMockingbirdy]

to be in the position to just simply let oneself 'fall' pregnant.

A few of my friends and associates have done it, weren't planning on children but didn't actively prevent them. Oh I've missed a period! I might be pregant! Oh I am :) How lovely. All involved happy.

I'm quite jealous that I'll never be able to do that. It's always a case of 'right not until 4 years because then I'll have finished studying and then I'll have to work for a year and then then I'll come off the implant then we can try' and it'll just seem like when we're finally in the position to have a child it'll seem forced. Then there's the watching and dreading the periods. I would just love to be able to do it care free without all this forward planning and worrying about 'will I even be able to have them by then?'

I'm not articulating myself very well, but I was just thinking about it and needed to get it out because I'm a bit upset by it to be honest. I'm so bloody broody. :(

There's never really a 'right' time to have a child. If you feel you want to study first and work first, then don't come off your contraception and do those things first. It shouldn't feel 'forced' just because you come off contraception anyway - your friends may have been trying for a while without you knowing. Having children isn't the be all and end all anyway - plenty of women go back to study and work afterwards. It does help to be in a stable relationship and financially able to support a child though. I dunno, I'm not in either of these situations but have recently been told I won't be able to have children so if I were to conceive I'd be overjoyed regardless!

YANBU, we were exactly the same! Took so long to decide if & when, and then TTC became like a military operation! Am glad we waited til when we did though. I was not broody at all though, still am not really. How old are you?

It fucks things up tbh.

Ds1 was planned. Tried for months. All happy with bfp. All went to plan.

Ds2 not planned, exp and I were just back together after long split, pregnant, shit, decisions had to be made, i didnt cope well with the whole unpreparedness of it all and got very depressed for quite a few years. Exp gone as inknew he would. Dont regret ds2 but wish it had been under better circumstances.

Stick with your plan, far better to be in control of such a massive decision than for it to happen when you are doing other very important things.

I'm broody as hell now but single and circumstances all sorts of wrong. It'll be so worth it when it's the right time.

I think it's about your personality too though. Some people may be able to just "wait and see" and that's what I told everyone I was doing. In reality I was temping and we were shagging around the clock! I just don't have the leave it up to nature gene in me.