I need some perspective

[Monkeysbananas]

I have named changed for this.

A few years ago a relative was sentenced for inappropriate behaviour with an underage child. Social services spoke to us about our children and protecting them from him.

We went no contact, moved house, changed school etc ( we were planning to move house and school anyway). I gave new school brief details that there was a possible child protection issue and said under no circumstances were Dc to be on the website. Today I discovered Dd on website individual full face picture with first name.

Aibu to be furious, gutted and devastated.

I contacted school be email asking them to remove the image and got a " sure, no problem" email in response.

The image has been cached by google.

What should I do? Is there a real risk? ( how do I judge this).

Where can I contact for advice.

is there anything to suggest he would go out of his way to target your DD?

Really shitty situation to be in, sorry OP :(

He would definitely love to get a picture of her, any more than that I don't know.

Surprised children's faces and names out on the web. Talk to the head teacher tomorrow first thing. I suspect other parents will also want their children name and face removed even if no issue. What's to stop a person hanging around the school recognising a child and calling them by name and taking them. Children are so innocent of they hear their name they think they know that person. Please please talk to the teacher tomorrow. At very least the names should be removed!

It would be worth speaking to the schools safe guarding officer? This seems to be a breach of privacy, and it's not like your just being a tad pfb overprotective, there is a real risk...
Ask about protocol going forward?
Can the google thing be undone?

Yanbu, this is a child protection issue that your child's school should take very seriously!! You did not give consent to photographs being used full stop!

No, you're not being unreasonable. Our school publishes nothing like this at all online.

When we moved here I had a full hour meeting with the safeguarding officer and head. I spelt out really clearly my worries so they wouldn't think it was PFB.

I just feel so let down that they know this and still this has happened and not even a phonecall or apology.

I'd have hoped that they'd tell the parents first regardless of this huge issue.

I'd get legal advice and write a loooong email talking about how displeased, scared for her safety and upset you are.

So horrible for you.

Can google remove it from their systems?

You're completely fair enough to be livid. The school's attitude seems way too casual - they will hold a list of pupils where there are issues around photos, and that list should be checked every time there's so much of a whiff of a camera. I'd ask to speak to the Head.

What should I ask from the Head though?

An apology would be a start but what else can he do at this stage?

Are there any child protection teachers about tonight?

The school can take steps to remove the image from google's cache

googlewebmastercentral.blogspot.co.uk/2007/04/requesting-removal-of-content-from-our.html

Unfortunately this is the reality.

I too have had personal details breached after long conversations about privacy and how vital it is.

I bet its just a case of someone innocently doing it because they have never been made aware of the issue ie a ta or something.

I'm a teacher and cp officer. We ask parents to opt in to photo permission - they sign a checklist and check off where photos can be published - eg newsletters, website etc. Saying that, we would never publish a child's photo with their name, even if we had website permission. Clearly there's a safeguarding issue here. I'd expect them to respond by apologising and assuring you that they're flagging this with all staff. It could have been just one person, possibly new, who just didn't think - but they now need to learn a lesson. So sorry this has happened.

I haven't opted in and they know that.

I'd be furious but at the sake time I assume it's a genuine mistake and just human error as others have said. These things can happen unfortunately. Give yourself a day or two to calm down so your level headed when you speak to them (unless of course there is action you need them to take ASAP like the google cache thing) then ask for meeting with Head and CP officer, even if it was a mistake they need to find out happened to avoid it happening again and I'd want to re impress the importance of this on the school.

I am still not quite sure how to handle this.

Did you speak to anyone today? If so, who? And how?

Yes I spoke to someone who works in child protection and who knows our full story.

She advised me to put concerns in writing to school and empathise what I consent to eg.
No photos or names on web
Outline exactly who is authorised to collect Dd

Sounds like perfect advice :-)

It's such a massive fuck up, it deserves formal written correspondence to the head.

Just to update. I was phoned by both the Head and Child protection officer today. I have received an apology and a plan is in place to prevent a reoccurrence. Also my kids not to leave premises other than with me or DH.

They are also going to remove names from website.

So a result but I still feel traumatised!

I hope it was a grovelling apology.

I imagine you are safe. The chances of this guy googling your DD or that school (which I'm guessing he has no idea she goes to so why would he) in the short time frame her pic was there will be so slim.