to have allowed next doors cat to move himself in?

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I have two cats and the NDN has two cats. One of them started popping in most days. We have a cat flap which is open all the time, our two come and go and have done for six years. NDNs cat was a kitten when it first started popping in, and we would shoo him away, send him back over to NDNs etc.

Over time, he started to come more and more, curls up with our two cats, eats from their bowls and sleeps in their baskets.

Up until about a week ago he was at least going home at night.

Now, he is here all the time. I dont mind, and mever have, but wonder if IABU by welcoming him. We have a good relationship with NDNs and have all always said "cats are welcome to come and go any time" etc and she has said mine pop into hers every now and then.

But her cat has essentially moved himself in. WDID?!?

We have inherited my sister's cat - she lives down the road. It started visiting and just wouldn't go home. We were mean to this cat for 6 months - we chased it out, refused to feed it, my sister would fetch it home daily and it just came back. We bought an electronic cat flap so it couldn't come in. Then it just sat in the rain mewing. and learned to leap through the catflap when one of mine entered. My cats weren't too pleased to see it either but it wouldn't go home, even though it was wet and starving.

We gave in and adopted her, and now I feel really bad that for the first 6 months of our relationship I was mean to her. You can't always make a cat go home, we found. It's not very satisfactory as my sister wanted the cat, and we have 2 already. But she's here to stay it seems.

actually I think that if the neighbours don't want their cats wandering off to other people's houses then it's their responsibility to keep them in.

If you let your cats out into the neighbourhood where they have the ability to wander freely then you can't really complain when they do just that.

Op - I would inform the neighbour that the cat has been coming in so they can shut it in if they don't want it to keep coming back. but other than that I don't actuall think it's your responsibility to keep throwing it out, and especially not to buy a microchip catflap.

YABU. For some reason over the years I have had to put up with numerous instances of people "adopting" my cat... I suspect because she is very cute and fluffy! She is also very old and I have had her for 12 years now so she is very much part of the family. Thankfully she doesn't go out much now so its not an issues nowadays. However our younger rescue cat now seems to be the property of at least 10 other people on the street.... he is fat as a pig but rarely eats here. I've asked people numerous times not to feed him or let him in but to no avail.... I pay his insurance, I have to take him to the vets, I buy his collars, flea collars etc and I never see him! It drives me up the fucking wall. Cats are ten a penny in rescue centres. if you want another cat - go get your own!

I didn't want another cat, I already have 3, but I cant stand by and see a cat suffer because the owner cant be bothered to take to the vets or to have the chip updated to show who the cat belongs to.

If someone told me my cat was in pain I would be searching the streets until I found him and got him treated.

Sometimes, despite everything being done to deter cats from adopting you they are insistent of belonging to you!

Not sure about some of the cat-stealing justifications on here so far.

Anyone who knows cats knows they are bunch of chancers looking for any free meal or warm place to sleep in peace, and very good at pretending to be hungry. They are not necessarily being neglected, ill-treated, malnourished or terrified out of their wits by other occupants of their existing homes; there's an awful lot of projecting going on here.

It's easy enough to deter them if you really don't want them 'adopting you'. Chase them off noisily and crossly the instant you see them and sound like you mean it.

As for food stealing, don't forget that your pet is highly likely to be up to exactly the same tricks at someone's else's house.

Microchip cat flaps are the way to go, as other posters say.

I wish somebody would come and chase my bugger away.. I would like to open my windows without having him do his flash past the living room door at speed and make me exercise chasing him.

What else can you do when they are so persistent, piss all over them like that deterrent thing to stop them crapping in the garden?