to hide dh car keys when hes being angry

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I really don't like dh disappearing off in the car when we have a fight. Aibu to just hide them? Worry's me all the time hes gone, and that usually is hours and can never sleep till hes back

No, I'd let him get on with it.

Do you really want an angry man trapped in the house with you??

Won't he get angrier when he can't find them?

Let him manage his own behaviour

You're not his mother op. He needs to learn how to control his reactions to the arguments.

Can I ask how old he is.
I used to drive off in a huff sometimes when I was first married. I was in my early twenties at the time. In my case as I matured I stopped doing it as I saw it as being a bit childish.

Leave that sort of immature and childish behaviour to my gender OP, we are good at it.

Maybe he is trying to put space between you when he is stressed so he can calm down and doesn't say something he regrets. My DH used to go for walks. I would get upset but then I realised that logically having some space might to destress might be for the best. Hiding his keys is controlling unless you think he is in unsafe to drive.

Is it that you dont think it is safe for him to drive when enraged?
if so, then I can understand. If he is likely to drive recklessly because he is so angry then he is a risk to other road users.

if it is that you dont want him to leave the house then I think that is a mistake. If he is leaving an escalating situation that is not a bad thing.

however, dont allow storming off or the threat of it to control your behaviour. If he wants to strop off - let him.

Oops I accidentally put an extra might in there!

If you know that he drives dangerously when in a temper - then yes I would hide the car keys simply because I I then found out he'd hurt someone and I could have stopped it I would feel terribly guilty.

Otherwise, leave him to it. Some people like to drive around to calm down.

if he drives off and you think he will injure himself by accident or by driving aggressively report him to the police

i told my husband i would report him if he drove off in an angry fit he sat in the car for an hour instead

When you say it's usually hours, how often does this happen? My husband and I bicker as much as the next couple, but a full-on, storming-out, staying-out-for-hours row is a rare occurrence. And if I was worried about him having gone, it would largely be guilt, because I'd have been at least as much of a wanker as him in the heat if the argument. Either way, hiding the keys is only likely to aggravate the situation.