To seek into my neighbours and destroy their trampoline.

[LadyPenny]

Of course I would but would you be so kind to let me rant on here instead,
We've live here for 17 years. Neighbours on both sides and backing onto us all elderly and lovely.
Last year the one backing onto us moved into sheltered accommodation. Her house is council so a family quickly moved in. Single mum with 8 children. Ive got 6 dc myself so hoped iogjt make a new friend. Immediately we started having eggs thrown at our windows several times a week. I went to see the mum and politly explained I was undergoing daily radio and chemotherapy and I really needed to rest, she denied it was her dc . The egg throwing carried on until I asked the police to have a word. Then it stopped.
The children age 2 - 15 are in the garden up until 9.30 every night and the noise is horrendous. They continually fall out and scream and shout at each other. The mother sits in the kitchen yelling at them to "fucking shut up".
Then last week they got a trampoline. All bloody day they are bouncing on it and looking straight into our living room. My dog who is very protective is constantly barking at them. They've broken all the fencing down on both sides of the garden front and back. That doesn't affect me but the neighbours on each side keep their property so nice I feel sorry for them.

Now though another family who appear to have 6 plus children has bought the house opposite theirs and they've joined forces along with various friends. I counted 23 children just loitering outside my gate this evening and that's happening every day.
I came in from a meeting today to find 7 teenage boys in the garden drinking and bouncing on the trampoline. I even get stressed because they are big lads and two at a time do summersaults with no safety net it's an accident waiting to happen. Why were they not at bloody school anyway. I went up to change DDs bed and as her room overlooks their garden I could see the talking about and laughing at me.

And even when they go in the doors and windows are all wide open and the music plays all night and the mother screams at the younger dc all night.

Dh came in at lunchtime and I made him take me out for lunch. I told him he was doing a good thing saving lives because if I'd stayed in I would probably killed one or two, there's do many they wouldn't be noticed.

I am BU but I really want my quiet surrounded by old people life back.

Call the council/ha with a log of the anti social behaviour and the police reference number from your call out

They'll soon pay them a visit!

Sounds horrendous.

Can you put up a strong, very high fence at the back of your garden?

I moved house 2 years ago to get away from an snit docile neighbour situation so you have my sympathies , it became all consuming and took over my life, my DS who was 11 was being assaulted by the son on a daily basis ...we started to log absolutely everything , even if the Police didn't come out there was a record of it. I'm afraid if will probably get worse before it gets any better.

Right obviously I meant anti-social neighbour, thanks I phone!

Sounds grim, and unfortunately I don't think there is going to be a speedy answer to this one.
Complaining often does lead to retaliation, but I think that is what you will have to do.
Yes to logging every incident. Send copies to both the Police and the Council. Take photos too.

I don't know if it would help to write to the neighbour detailing the problems. Do it in a friendly, cheery way, if that is possible still. Make clear that you need things to improve or will need to be logging it and reporting it.

If it persists and is serious, they will get evicted, but it will take months and could become unpleasant. I am very sorry for you, because there is no easy answer.

I have similar problems...it is slowly driving me insane. The whole neighbourhood seems to play in next doors garden,jumping on their trampoline so I can see them above our fence,or climbing their climbing frame/swing set,(which is the width of their garden) with random children staring over the fence.I have a whole catalogue of other stuff that these kids do ... children ranging from toddlers to teenagers... and sometimes adults! It's not fair!!!!

You might want to call SS anyway, she shouldn't be swearing and screaming at her kids like that.

It sounds awful but you can get help. We live in an ex la property with a mixture of owned, rented and ha properties neighbouring us. We have had 2 problem families since moving in. The owner-occupiers we could do v little about except call the police when it got really bad - thankfully they finally split up and the screaming stopped.

Otoh, the h.a were brilliant about the difficult family in one if their properties, they put in loads of support for the mum and held meetings with the police and council to tackle the issues. They kept in regular touch with us, understood our concerns and eventually moved the family. The property was ruined and they had to do extensive refurb work.

Interestingly, a lone parent moved in with their 7 children and you never hear any shouting or see any rowdy behaviour. Complete contrast to the previous family (only 2 kids but felt/looked and sounded like 10!)

Contact the council and ask for help. Call the police non emergency number if there is damage to your property and 999 if you feel threatened. Good luck.

Op this is so awful, what in considerate citizens these parents are churning out!

Call council keep log etc, but also keep your head down, they are already talking about you, its worrying.

They sound feral and a nightmare. Phone the council. Yanbu

Interesting to see people think we may be able to do something. i mentioned contacting the council to dh today. He doesn't think it's worth calling the council. He says they won't be interested in what Is basically kids playing noisiily on a trampoline. I think it's worth a shot as it is affecting our lives. My younger dc all go to bed between 7 and 8.30 on a school night. But with screaming and bouncing next door plus our dog constantly barking because she can't cope the dc are not getting their full quota of sleep.

PrincessBabyCat I'm a foster carer and I've already had a word about her to my SW because I heard her hitting the youngest several times at 3o clock in the morning because he was still up during a party and had tipped cereal on the kitchen floor .

She's o her garden now with some friends. I'm on bed with small window open and can hear every word and cackle.

It sounds hideous. Could you put up some trellis near your living room windows to help a bit, visually at least?

Something from the vet to calm your dog? I know you can get a Feliway plug in calmer for cats. The last thing you need is a complaint about noise from your dog.

Sounds awful but your dog barking is kinda your problem.

Sounds terrible- I would hate to live like that

Sounds absolutely horrendous.
We back onto a park and I got stressed out when a group of 4/5 men would hang out directly outside ours by the wood structure that could be used for chin ups. They would bring a boombox, beer, and shout really loudly as the music was so loud. worse thing was they would only start about 8/9 o'clock and would go on for hrs. As that was where our bedroom was I hated it. I complained to the council and I couldn't have been the only one, as a week later they took the structure down and since then all is back to peace and quiet. I don't know why they didn't put it in the other side where no one lives :/

Please do have a word with your local council, it might just be worth it.

Keep a diary and report to council/ha. I have 9 kids and they don't act that way, they know if they argue in the garden i'll bring them in. If they get too loud they get a warning then told to come in. My neighbour on the other hand has two teens and they are louder than my 9 put together.

You poor thing.

Surely this new neighbour is on a starter tenancy? If she is then she has 1 year to prove herself as a good tenant or she's out on her ear.

Fingers crossed she gets removed.

Sounds awful, report and also log everything. Photos and videos to back up what you're saying will be good - especially of they deny it all which they probably will.

Complain to the police and the council.

There will be a clause in their tenancy that states they are not behave anti-socially.

Encourage your other neighbours to complain too, especially about the damage.