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Leaving dc for two weeks, am a emotional loon already

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Bornintheusa · 09/05/2014 22:07

No one has forced me obviously though dh has non of the guilt that I have Hmm

Leaving the (4) dc with their grandparents that think the world of them for two weeks while dh and I do the holiday of a lifetime. Infact it's more than that as so many people will prob want to do something like this but never get round to it.

I have not got the tiniest doubt about leaving them with gp's, they have made a effort pretty much every weekend since they were born to visit and I know dc will 110% be safe loved and looked after but I'm sad that I will be seeing things I've always wanted to see but without them by my side (which is stupid as we could never afford for the 6 of us to go)

Anyone else been away from
dc thjs long that can reassure me?

Weird part is I know it is only me that will struggle, they will have a fantastic holiday with gp's and I will feel guilty about not having them with me in their same daily routine.

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PrincessBabyCat · 09/05/2014 22:11

Don't know about leaving kids for that long. But when I was a kid, I got to spend a week or so every summer with my aunt and uncle, and some of my best child hood memories are from those times. Your kids will be having too much fun to miss you or be unhappy, I promise. Wink

MrsKoala · 09/05/2014 22:12

How old are they?

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Bornintheusa · 09/05/2014 22:14

They are 13,11,4,3 but will be a year older when we go.

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Bornintheusa · 09/05/2014 22:17

That's the thing princess, if I was sat at home for two weeks I would not give it a 2nd thought.

I need to get past the martyr stage of punishing myself for wanting to have a bit of child free time while the dc are being looked after fine

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wouldbemedic · 09/05/2014 22:18

This doesn't seem like an issue to me at all! It depends on your children. If you're sure they won't find this difficult - and you seem to be - I wouldn't give it another thought.

MrsKoala · 09/05/2014 22:19

That sounds fine then. Mine haven't reached that age so i can't imagine leaving them for more than a night atm (altho the way 19mo DS is currently behaving i think i could happily leave him with his GPs till he was 18 Angry ). But at 4yo the youngest will be fine and probably have a lovely time.

Dinosaursdontgrowontrees · 09/05/2014 22:22

I'm a nanny and my bosses go away for two weeks every spring and have done ever since their children were babies. I think it's lovely for them to spend some quality time together. Children are fine, bearly seem to notice they are gone.
Your children will be fine op. Am I allowed to ask where you are going? Sounds very exciting!

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Bornintheusa · 09/05/2014 22:29

My user name is a clue dinosaur Wink

None of it is child friendly and the travel and time zones would make them unbearable but I live around people who will take great delight in telling me this is something they could never do.

I wonder if my response of "you are obviously a MUCH better mum than me then" is too much

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AuditAngel · 09/05/2014 22:31

5 years ago DH and I went on a 2 week cruise without DC (then aged 5 and 2) leaving them with my mum and sister.

DS was at school and DD (2) had nursery 2 days a week. I missed them, but knew they were fine, had a whale of a time and bought them a couple of presents!

DH goes away skiing every year for nearly a week, does he feel guilty? No.

Last year I went to Greece for 5 days with a cousin. I face-timed the kids (then aged 9, 6 and 2) I had a fantastic break.

Go, it won't scar the kids and you will come back showering them with affection.

Where are you going? (See, not where are you thinking of going Wink )

AuditAngel · 09/05/2014 22:31

I forgot to say, the cruise was for our 40th birthdays

nikki1978 · 09/05/2014 22:33

I did it when DC were 5 and 2. They were fine. It was a great trip (best friends wedding in Aus). Don't let people make you feel bad.

StarSwirl92 · 10/05/2014 00:18

My parents used to leave me and my brother with my Gran for the whole summer holidays as they couldn't get time off and we lived so far from family. I'm sure it'll be fine Smile

Ziplex · 10/05/2014 00:28

We do every year, have done for years.
The children love being with the GP and we always take them away in the summer.
Happy parents, who are connecting, spending quality time together and who are happy with each other make for happy children.

TulipOHare · 10/05/2014 00:32

I fully intend to do this sometime in the next 2-3 years. DD is already fine with it (she's just back from a 2-week holiday with my mother) but DS is not quite there yet, he is 5. When he's 6 or 7 though I plan to leave them with my mum for a fortnight in the summer and go backpacking alone Smile

I have been daydreaming about it for years but am sure I will still be an emotional wreck when I do it.

HicDraconis · 10/05/2014 00:42

I'm sitting in the departure lounge about to fly back to my children & DH. Only been away a week this time but I've done longer in the past (work related). I'm always emotional but I suspect more because they're obviously so fine without me Grin

The children will have a great time, you'll have a great time, the GPs will love having their dgc to themselves and have a great time too. Win win.

Enjoy your holiday. They can do their own holiday of a lifetime seeing what they want to see when they're older. And don't let anyone guilt you into thinking you're a bad mother! I'd be worried if my children weren't resilient enough to manage without me for a week.

MrsTerryPratchett · 10/05/2014 01:30

I just got back from 3 weeks in China, for FUN, not work. DD 3yo was with her Dad but she is a Mummy's girl. I suffered worse than her. I am a better wife and mother for it, got back a bit of my pre-family self (who is a lot nicer and much more interesting.

Bedsheets4knickers · 10/05/2014 11:59

I have a hen weekend this month for 3 nights, I really hope I can just enjoy it. I feel distraught at leaving t
My kiddies. X

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