to think this woman was a bit rude?

[passmethewineplease]

Need another opinion, I can't decide.

Today me and my dc were catching a train, I had my four year old with me and my six month old ds in my manduca carrier.

The station was absolutely packed due to a delayed train, we had to go down the stairs thanks to the stupid lift being out of order. again

I was worried for DD so told her to hold on to the banister, there was a woman coming up pretty fast in DDs path, I thought she'd maybe shuffle over so DD could keep hold of the banister.

But no, instead she made some rude remark about her needing to be somewhere? So my DD had to let go and shuffle over in a crowd of people.

AIBU in thinking that she was wrong and should of let my daughter continue holding on to the banister?

I would always move out the way if if were me?! Am I alone?

Depends. Were you going down the up side? Only asking because people do it a lot in the station near me - it's as if they can't read the very clear sign saying to keep left! And were you blocking the entire stair?

If not, then she was being an arsehole.

I think she should have been caring enough to see that a little child was holding on and not make her move

I think she was very wrong to make a four year old child move out of the way and to let go of a bannister in a crowd! What a thoughtless rude cow. I would absolutely move around a small child and what's more I would want them not to feel like they were "in my way" as I did it. Stupid woman. I am angry for you!

Is there not usually a one way system at train stations? (ie, woman OR daughter was on wrong side)

Generally I would give way to someone, particularly a child, going DOWN stairs and wanting to hold the bannister. But I'm in reasonable health and it could be someone with poor health needs it equally to aid them UP stairs.

Either way I wouldn't fret over it. She doesn't sound pleasant.

Definitely not blocking the stairs, if anything I was trying to stay as close to DD as possible to make sure she wasn't knocked or tripped. I don't think I was on the wrong side, she was the only one coming up on that side if that makes sense?

I'm obviously not sure about mobility problems, on first glance it didn't seem like there any but I'm aware you can't really know like that. It was also her response about needing to go somewhere quicker, (I imagine she was in a rush for her train connection? Quite a lot of services were delayed as a result of the first train)

If it were me I'd definitely move over to ensure the child could carry on holding the banister.

Crowds can make even reasonable people rude and cranky. I wouldn't think too much on it.

It's made me realise one thing. I cannot wait to pass my driving test!

Yes she was fleetingly grumpy and inconsiderate.
Now forget about it.

It sounds as if she was being an arsehole.

A tiny bit of me wonders if, if you didn't know you were on the right side, then you maybe missed the sign. But I only say that because I quite often see people dawdling along down the wrong side, when I am trying to make a platform alteration at short notice or similar, and that is incredibly annoying.

I guess I also think, if you weren't in a rush, it'd be polite to stand to one side if there's a mass exodus in a hurry, but then I do see that you might not be able to do that with a little one as one can as a single adult.

(That is me grasping for straws btw, I suspect it is far more likely she was just being an arsehole.)

Sometimes you are just in a hurry though. Trains to catch , places to be.

That's life.

That's understandable, I was in a rush before that but I would never let a child let go of the banister to move over on a busy staircase. It just isn't the right thing to do IMO.

Tbh LRD it was that packed the sides sort of just merged in to one big blur.

The joys of public transport.

Defintely arsehole, then.

I think some people just don't apply brain. If he'd fallen, they'd have been shocked - but they don't think that he might fall. I saw someone manage to shove a small child forwards so they almost fell between the train and the platform onto the tracks - it was terrifying, but clearly the people shoving hadn't thought of the consequences.

And when my dd did move over, she didn't even say thanks! Annoyed me even more.

Must. Pass. Test.

Some people don't put the safety and comfort of little children above their own, sadly.

LRD that's scary! Some train gaps are absolutely huge too!

I'm glad I had the manduca, last time two lovely people helped me down the steps with the pram. :)

It really was!

Glad you had a better experience previously.

And I'm sorry, I've realized I referred to your DS when you have a DD.

It's ok, sometimes even I get them mixed up.

She was in the wrong. I think she was probably being stupid rather than rude. Perhaps her being late blinded her to what was going on....ignorant but not necessarily intentionally rude. I think sometimes people without kids don't "see" them, or don't understand that your DD needed to hold the bannister. Don't stress about it, maybe she realises now and is feeling dreadful.

Babywearing high five from me- we love our manduca, sometimes its so great not to have to worry about a buggy.

Definitely cow, DS loves it and I find it so much easier to travel with!

Depends , were you on the left or the right. I'm a northerner but I notice when 'down sarth' people get mighty funny about going up and down stairways escalators etc on the 'wrong side' . I once committed the mortal sin of standing on an escalator on the wrong side and you would think I had murdered someone by the outraged pompous comments by a few people till I realised my 'crime' and moved over.

It was all one big blur tbh Bath, one mibiwe were left then middle then right, it was bedlam.

Wonder why their lift is always broke too..

Mibiwe?! I meant minute, stupid autocorrect.