sorry is a bit L O N G !
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God, I had first baby, at 5 months my Husband got seriously ill,
rare illness similar to Cancer,
He just could not talk or Eat, barely. Frightening,
for about 10 months,
Couldn't pick baby up, was off work ill. Awful time. 
Had zero family help, elderly parents both sides; my Dad had died when pregnant with DD1.
Had operation and Radiotherapy, so luckily got better, by time first born was about 2 1/2. He was back almost as normal. (but will be on serious drugs rest of life)
phew.
Then had painful misscarrige, that dragged on for months. (we weren't TCC just accident)
so...
Then we Decided even though skint, and had used up all out savings, we really wanted DD1 to have a sibling.
We thought, It will be ok, will manage financially somehow. We had Cot, buggy etc already.
So started TCC.
Total shock at first scan, it was Twins!
Had to stop part-time childminding work, I had started recently.
Exhausted as I was full time size at 3 months!!
COuld not return to childminding as had planned few months after birth, as had twin babies and three year old.
Was totally overwhelmed.
Twins born healthy , so lucky.
But again was sooooo busy missed every single social thing, when you can meet Mum-friends.
eg. went to a playgroup, spent whole time feeding, stopping crying, nappy changing one of my three needing me that never had 2 mins to even drink a Tea or say more than "hello" to anyone.
Survived day by day, but only could manage essentials. So Busy.
When Twins were 2 1/2 started getting terrible wrist pain.
GP said had "worn out wrists" with combination of so much activity and the extra muscle -relaxant hormone I had left in body (from Twin pregnancy.)
DC started at school with most people very very much more afluent than us. Mums i met were already very cliquey as known each other since playgroup NCT days.
Didn't fit in at all.
Now, I am living a life, with zero Mum-friends, and feel so lonely.
Keep trying but constantly doesn't work.
Its getting too late now.
DD1 is now 12 and DT's are 8 , it all seems to late.
Keep trying but seemingly there is no-one around locally who needs a friend
Dont know why.
Everyone in Groups or have gone back to Work Full time.
I was never great at having friends as a child ( had unusual and but cruel parents with no friends themselves)
Arg, can I start again please ????