To be upset with my boss?

[GlumMum2014]

I've NCed as too many RL people would be able to identify me if I hadn't.

My colleague and I had an external assessment at work. After it was over, the assessor fed back to our boss about it.(They were very complimentary and it went very well).

When I came into the staffroom, my boss didn't say anything to me.

My colleague came in and sat down opposite her and my boss started the whole 'well done, you did really well etc'. I sat down the other end of the room feeling :( that she didn't say anything to me. I know it's childish to be upset but I worked just as hard as my colleague and a well done would have been enough.

AIBU to be upset?

YANBU

That's just plain childish coming from a boss

Well done for your hard work

Do you think that maybe they gave everyone 'you've done well' line and then said something else to your boss?

But you were sitting at the opposite end of the room from your boss, whereas your college sat opposite her.

Should your boss have shouted across the room to you?

Hopefully your praise is coming still.

No we definitely did very well, we had to sign the feedback before it was shared with her.

I don't think she did it deliberately as it isn't the kind of thing I'd ever have known her to do but it still upset me. And when she was telling my colleague she was saying things like 'they said you work really well together' etc but was still just telling her and didn't even look at me!

Was your boss also being assessed?

Ask her dont let it brew.

No just the two of us!

Your colleague was nearer. They got into a conversation you didn't. You are taking it way to personally!

The other thing is that some people are seen as bmneeding much more encouragement than others. It could be a compliment and that she sees your colleague as having more needs than you.

Why didn't you sit down opposite your boss first?

Did you engage your boss in conversation? Obviously you knew you'd done well as you'd seen the feedback, so maybe your boss just mentioned it to your colleague because they were the one who was nearer to them, whereas you chose to sit at the opposite end of the room, even though your boss was in there first, so possibly gave off a vibe that you didn't want to talk.

Either way, unless your boss has form for being a dick, then it shouldn't matter - you all know the results, you probably better than your boss, so if you want further validation for your efforts then you might need to make yourself more available for it.