I am a gay woman and the first relationship I had with a woman was this girl I'm about to write about.
I was 21 and she was 26, she was known to be a bit of a "player" and I was somewhat of a wallflower.
Anyway, we dated, lived together v v quickly (like after 3 months) and were together for 18 months. I always knew she was cheating on me but scared that if I mentioned anything I would lose my home and her (stupid fool!)
Anyway, I caught her once, at a halloween party in a pub I was working in, didn't actually catch her in the act but saw her leaving the toilet with a girl, the girl later sat at the bar and told me she couldn't believe what she had just done - snogged some girl dressed as the incredible hulk in the toilet (my girlfriend). Anyway, just trying to paint a picture, we didn't split up and after a few arguments sorted it out.
Fast forward a few months, she cheats again, we break up. We have the same friends so remained friends, she is in my main circle of friends and this relationship was 10 years ago, no feelings for her whatsoever anymore.
Last night on the way home from work I saw her outside the shop she works at, clearing away some chairs, we chatted as usual, then I said goodbye.
She shouted after me so I turned round and she said whilst laughing "Oh do you remember that halloween party, when I was "shagging" that other girl in the toilet, and you caught me"? (She's always been known to exaggerate. I confirmed I rmeembered, at this point she knocked on her shop window and a girl turned round, it was her, the other woman and she did a playful "oh shit" face.
Who does this? I remember that time well and was really really hurt by it. I just think it's strange behaviour. WIBU to say something to my ex that it was a stupid thing to do or just let it go?