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to keep the pass-the-parcel present won by DS2 at DS1's birthday?

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RachelWatts · 08/05/2014 21:56

A few friends came round after school with their DCs - a long standing reciprocal arrangement every Thursday. There were only 3 boys plus 2 babies there.

As it's actually DS1's birthday today, I had a birthday cake with candles, and had bought and wrapped a gift for pass-the-parcel, so although it wasn't a party, it was a bit of a celebration.

DS2, despite being only 13 months old, showed signs of wanting to be in on the pass-the-parcel. He mainly likes tearing paper. So instead of operating the music as I normally would as parent of the birthday boy, I sat in the circle with DS2 and asked my friend to operate the music.

She didn't realise when we were on the last layer, despite me telling her to look out for a particular pattern of paper, and she stopped the music when I was holding the parcel for DS2. Without thinking, I let him go ahead and open it, so of course he 'won'.

WIBU to allow my child to win the prize I had paid for and wrapped? Especially since he's 1 year old and the prize is apparently not suitable for under 3s, so DS1 will most likely get more use out of it.

If I was operating the music I would have made sure DS1 didn't win, as he'd already had lots of presents, but then DS2 wouldn't have been playing.

There were only 4 children playing, so if we followed the unwritten rule of host's and music operator's children are not allowed to win, there was only 1 child who could have won.

There were no tantrums and no children were upset, and neither of my friends said anything. It occurred to me after they left that maybe I ought to have not let DS2 open the parcel but insist on another round. DS2 is little enough that he wouldn't have been upset.

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EatShitDerek · 08/05/2014 21:58

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ikeaismylocal · 08/05/2014 21:59

Yanbu, my mum used to put a little gift in each layer, a pot of bubbles or some sweets, then each child sat out after they had won a little something, the end present was something a little bigger or maybe a pot of bubblesand packet of sweets.

Edendance · 08/05/2014 22:09

I've not ever played it where the birthday child gets the final 'prize' so I don't really know... I wouldn't stress now, it's too late for one thing!

Edendance · 08/05/2014 22:10

I've only ever played it

Kormachameleon · 08/05/2014 22:12

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MotorLoo · 08/05/2014 22:15

Bless you, don't worry. The other mums and little ones won't be giving it another thought!

DeWee · 08/05/2014 22:20

Don't worry!

I did this with dd1 once. She had about 15 girls and 2 boys, and I sent dh out to get prizes and he came back with a pink cat bag for the pass the parcel prize having thought it was all girls coming.

When it came to doing the parcel, they'd all had their little prize, and I turned round so as to not see who got it, but I waited until I thought the prize would be just after the boys, unfortunately I left it a bit long and dd1 got the prize. Blush
She did give it to her best friend though, as she particularly liked it, but I did feel very embarrassed.

CoffeeTea103 · 08/05/2014 22:20

Your post was a whole lot of nothing with no point. Seriously who has the time to dissect such trivial things Hmm

MissDuke · 08/05/2014 22:23

Awch I think you sound lovely and yanbu :-)

RachelWatts · 08/05/2014 22:24

Thanks, people - you've made me feel better. I do have a tendency to over think.

But coffeetea - you could tell from the title it was going to be a trivial subject. Why did you spend your precious time reading it?

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