to keep loss of family cat from dd

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We are most likely getting old cat pts tomoro. DD is 11 years old and has grown up with dcat. She is closer to one of our other cats but will still be upset. It is her Sats next week and she is anxious enough as it is.

Should i tell her before or after Sats? She probably wouldn't notice dcat is not there as dcat sleeps all of the time at mo anyway.

Any opinions would be appreciated...

I would tell her. Better for her to know and deal with it over the weekend than find out (I know that my 9 year old will notice straight away when our cat dies) then having to deal with that AND the feeling that they had important information kept from them.

It is hard because she has sensory issues which make it more difficult for her to deal with.

We were in the same boat with our dog. I wouldn't tell her (if you can try not to look upset). My dd was so upset her results were down a whole level. She is very sensitive though.

I def think you should tell her so that she can say goodbye, otherwise she won't get that chance, treat it as matter of fact, comes to us all, time to let it go etc, not too much fuss, but obviously you are all sad! Chances are if you behave like its just one of those things, it will rub off on her and she won't be too upset xxxxxx Good luck xx

Well it would seem to me to make sense after the sats if she's so stressed.

Why is she stressed? My 4 did sats and weren't stressed.

Meant to say Good Luck too on what ever you decide - with us it was the night before the SATS and the animal was young and had been in an accident so slightly different situation. Xxx

Tell her so she has a chance to say good bye. Doesn't matter if she has sensory issues. She needs that chance or it may result in an even bigger melt down since you lied to her.

I'd let her say goodbye. If my parents had one of our family pets pts and didn't tell me I don't know how I'd have forgiven them. That would have put me off my sats more I think.

I know this sounds cruel, but is there any chance you could delay having your cat PTS until after.

I really had no choice my kitten had to be PTS due to acute kidney failure and there was no way I would let my girl stay alive any longer when in pain.

Thank you for all of your replies. We have decided to tell her tomorrow after school so she can have the weekend to calm down before her SATS.

How are you today.

Well done read, hope it all goes ok xxx sorry for you all xx

I think that's a good decision.
As you said, dd will have some time to process it, and won't feel resentful that you didn't tell her.
It's tough enough to have to decide to have a pet PTS as it is.