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AIBU?

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Original poster

to think DH is taking his Welshness just a bit far?

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ClodiaF · 07/05/2014 22:58

Went to collect DS (aged 18 months) from DH's study where he'd gone to say goodnight, to find DH has taken said child out of his only pair of clean pyjamas and hidden them, on grounds they were the wrong colour. I.e white England rugby strip rather than red Welsh. Pjs 2nd hand and child is 1/2 English anyway, as it happens. DH cannot understand why I don't appreciate I have committed a mortal sin. Aibu, or just missing a key chromosone?

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WorraLiberty · 07/05/2014 23:04

He needs to nip that in the bud before your child picks up on his Dad's problem.

YANBU

PomBearWithAnOFRS · 07/05/2014 23:07

Remind your DH that Llewellyn Fawr himself married an English woman (and an illegitimate one at that!) and his sons wore nighties, not jamas at all... them mention floral winceyette and look wistful...

wouldbemedic · 07/05/2014 23:08

lol but the Welsh are all nuts aren't they? In a delightful way. And they can sing! Can't have everything.

sonlypuppyfat · 07/05/2014 23:08

You don't understand what being Welsh means to them! My dad was just the same.

PrincessBabyCat · 07/05/2014 23:09

Me and DH cannot agree what team our DD will be a fan of. I'm going to have to resort to telling her depraved lies about DH's team and bribe her with sweets. :)

NoBusinessLikeSnowBusiness · 07/05/2014 23:09

Were they white, or were they the England rugby strip? Because if the latter ... YA DEFINITELY BU.

Seriously, especially as you're English, he needs to get a grip.

WorraLiberty · 07/05/2014 23:10

I'm confused OP

Are you saying it was because of the rugby colours, or because your DH is xenophobic?

Either way, it's bound to make your child uncomfortable at some point if it's not nipped in the bud early.

Alisvolatpropiis · 07/05/2014 23:11

I'm Welsh, my DP is English, though I rib (we live in Wales) him sometimes I don't take it that far. Your DH is being a bit ott. Was he joking?

Do you live in England or Wales? I only ask because I find myself feeling very much a minority when we visit DP's family and comments about Wales (there are always comments) make me inclined to be more rather than less Welsh. So if you live in England maybe he's a bit touchy about your child not sharing any of his culture? Wales does have one separately from England.

He's still being a bit of a tit though.

Alisvolatpropiis · 07/05/2014 23:13

would

I can't sing

Letting my country men and women down!

HelenHen · 07/05/2014 23:13

Oooh dhs friend gave us a bag of clothes when ds was born. In it was an England football kit for baby (I'm Irish and also hate football). I threw it out and never mentioned it to dh

I'm still waiting for it to bite me in the arse

ShatnersBassoon · 07/05/2014 23:13

It's a tiresome joke, surely.

MoominAndMiniMoom · 08/05/2014 01:09

YABU ;)

Our DD is half-English, technically, but I also identify as Welsh - it's my first language, lived here almost all my life. She'll be raised to be proud of the history and literature of England, but when it comes to rugby? She's 100% Welsh

(seriously though, YANBU, he's taking it too far)

YoureBeingASillyBilly · 08/05/2014 01:38

Did anyone else read this thread in a Welsh accent?

chrome100 · 08/05/2014 05:36

I'm welsh and get fed up of militant welsh people banging on about daffodils and such like. For me it just happens to be where I was born/grew up and a fluke. I much prefer England, everyone is a lot more relaxed!

Vinomcstephens · 08/05/2014 07:25

OP, tell your husband that up until medieval times, a person took their Welsh nationality through their mother. So a Welsh mum + English dad = Welsh. But an English mother meant you were thoroughly English, no matter how far your dad may take his "Welshness"! Might be worth dropping into conversation....

SandorClegane · 08/05/2014 07:36

My husband is the same about green clothes, particularly anything green and white striped because he's a Glasgow Rangers fan

I tend not to buy green clothes for them but I also don't indulge the nonsense, for example if there is green stripy socks in a set ill still put them on them. It's all a bit daft.

thebodylovesspring · 08/05/2014 07:42

Dm is welsh as are all her family.

Mad as hatters one and all.

And my dm has, quite possibly, the worse voice in the world.

Op seriously that's normal welsh behaviour by my families standards.

Birdsgottafly · 08/05/2014 07:47

I'm in Liverpool, so come into contact with committed football fans.

I know Evertonians who won't buy any Christmas decorations/cards, that have red on them. I have to buy their's early to ensure I go down the Blue and Silver route.

I think that you should agree with your DH on this one, until your child can pick his own clothes.

It isn't nice to have to look at your child wearing a colour that has bad connotations for you.

MoominAndMiniMoom · 08/05/2014 08:46

chrome100 Have you ever been to the West Midlands?

When we go back to visit family, the amount of England flags I see everywhere and the number of people who call us sheep shaggers wouldn't really lead me to believe they're more relaxed. We're just as bad as each other

Although it is funny being called a sheep shagger for wearing a Wales top and then breaking out the Black Country accent

AtiaoftheJulii · 08/05/2014 08:54

My dh is Welsh, I'm English. Our kids are allowed to support England at football (because dh supports his local football team and, being Welsh, doesn't bother about international football) and Wales at Rugby. There is no way my dh would have let any of them be dressed in anything to do with English rugby, and he's really quite sane and doesn't come across as fanatically Welsh!

Preciousbane · 08/05/2014 08:59

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Pointeshoes · 08/05/2014 09:23

Just ban rugby / football tops in your house then you'll have no problems.

BackforGood · 08/05/2014 09:45

To be fair, he didn't take him out of his PJs because they were the wrong colour, he took them off him because they were an England Rugby kit. In which case he wasn't BU at all. You can't see your much loved dc in the kit of your arch enemy, whatever the sport or allegiance.

ComposHat · 08/05/2014 09:47

My husband is the same about green clothes, particularly anything green and white striped because he's a Glasgow Rangers fan. I tend not to buy green clothes for them but I also don't indulge the nonsense, for example if there is green stripy socks in a set ill still put them on them. It's all a bit daft

Poor little bastards. I imagine it must be a struggle getting bowler hats and sashes in infant sizes.

msmoss · 08/05/2014 09:55

I need to know if they were actual England rugby PJs or just white PJs. If if they were just white then your DH is BU.

Although how much does your DH like rugby. I'm not sure there is anything I could do to piss off my DH more than dressing our half English children in an England Rugby kit. I only let him get away with this because he cares about rugby more than me. In fact I think if we owned any English rugby stuff it would most likely have been bought by someone wanting to wind DH up so that would probably make it funnier worse.

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