to say what about the father's?

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Frequently on here someone is criticizing the behavior of children and blames parents but mostly the mum.
Aibu to think dad's should be just as responsible for instilling discipline and goodtable manners, behaviour etc.

the father's what?

I haven't seen the blame being placed on the Mum...just the parents.

Naughty sassy :)

Whoever is the primary carer doing the day to day stuff shoulders most of the blame, simply because they are the ones who are present to set the examples and deal with stuff.

In a situation where both parents work full time and have equal amounts of time with the dc, then both parents are equally responsible.

I don't think one parent can be held responsible for the way behaviour is being managed when they are not there at the time. They might be partly responsible for the causes of negative behaviour though.

They might be partly responsible for the causes of negative behaviour though
the effect of being abandoned would be very negative yes.

Fathers
Dads

What about the father's what?

Verruca? New car? Blonde secretary?

yes yes very good you know all about apostrophes.....
have a

Sassy and rollon, you beat me to it.

You should offer fruit or veg instead of a biscuit, Nigellas because the IP used a grocer's apostrophe.

OP, not IP.

Probably because it's the mom that's the one making the threads. :)

hot sauce have some banana's

Made the mistake once of assuming that a dad was in the picture in real life when I was talking to a single parent with a non involved ex. So I would not comment on a dad unless he was mentioned. But on saying that, I generally do not critique others on their parenting.

Can I have a cucumber instead?

no we only sell cucumber's in multiple's

let's all criticise the OP's use of the apostrophy instead of dealing with a real issue. Why are mothers always to blame and fathers always good. 'Oh he's so good with the children' you hear all the time about Dads, the more time they spend with the kids the more they seem to be considered a good father. When was the last time you heard the same about a mother?

Lone mothers parents are always feckless, never the absent father parent according to popular culture.

I'm not convinced that just because a mother either works part time or not at all she should be to blame for badly behaved children, why is the father not doing a fair share of the childcare? There are 168 hours in a week, even a full time worker is at home far more than they are not.

Got that the wrong way round! the less time they spend with the kids...

"'Oh he's so good with the children' you hear all the time about Dads"

Only time i ever hear that is from OP's when they are defending a shitty, normally abusive partner when MNer's tell them they need to LTB. OP will come back with "but he's such a good dad"

Never hear it in RL.

You have an acute case of extraneous apostrophes there OP!

Apologies. Hit the wrong precictive text.
Just referring to the fact that you never see threads or comments about say niece being poorly behaved as db is crap with them. Always sil who would get the blame etc etc.

I have seen threads where people question the assumption that the female shoulders most of the child-rearing/housework burden.

YY to more that do so.

YANBU. Even with absent fathers (like with my DC) it's their fault too (if they're not trying to parent them). I have a cousin who has said a lot of stuff like this, and it's so annoying, because both parents should be parenting equally, and they are therefore equally responsible for the behaviour/how they react to the behaviour and discipline of the DC.

Whoever is the primary carer doing the day to day stuff shoulders most of the blame, simply because they are the ones who are present to set the examples and deal with stuff.

That'll be the school or childcare then, rather than the parents given that most people of know both work full time.