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AIBU?

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To be a little peeved?

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savethedramaforyamama · 07/05/2014 09:46

Ok so I was dropping the kids off at school this morning and I briefly blocked someone's driveway. I had just got the two big kids (8 and 9) out of the car and had left the baby (11 months) in her carseat as I only have to see the big kids across the road as they make their own way into school from the gate. Anyway I was about to help the kids across the road when this woman marched up to me from taking her kids into school I assume and starts shouting at me saying didn't I read the sign that says her driveway needs 24hr disabled emergency access, I apologised profusely, she carried on shouting saying it was illegal to block someone's driveway, I apologised again and as I already had the kids out the car and just had to see them across the road (which took 5 seconds) I thought this would clear her driveway quicker than putting them back in the car and moving it. Anyway next thing I know she is at her window taking a photo of me! I was already back in my car at this point pulling out of the space. Now I know I was wrong to block her driveway even for 10 seconds (which was literally about how long I was there) but is there any need for her reaction?

OP posts:

Teeb · 07/05/2014 10:38

You are that person though op. Take a good look at yourself and accept this was a hugely selfish act that you committed.

WeeClype · 07/05/2014 10:44

Teeb .....I stay next to a shop too and the man across the road from me comes home nearly every night to find a car in front of his drive!

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savethedramaforyamama · 07/05/2014 10:50

Teeb I'm not sure what else you want me to say, I have already admitted that I was in the wrong, I know it was stupid and selfish of me and I will definitely not do it again but I am NOT that person, you don't know me. I was already feeling terrible about myself but now feel a hundred times worse. I am not going to apologise to you anymore as the only person who deserves my apologies is the woman whose driveway I blocked, who I will be apologising to again later

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HighwayDragon · 07/05/2014 10:53

I called our local pcso out who ticketed a load of cars who had parked like arseholes

DIYtrainee · 07/05/2014 10:56

I can accept that you're not NORMALLY that person, but you were that person when you parked there. And I guess it kinda sucks to know that actually, occasionally, you are that kind of person.

But then we all have something crap as part of our personalities.

FunnyFoot · 07/05/2014 11:05

Fair play OP.

AlpacaLypse · 07/05/2014 11:12

OP have some and some (for later). It takes guts to admit YABU on one of these threads and you deserve it!

Gubbins · 07/05/2014 11:30

It's NOT illegal to park across a driveway.

YANBU to feel peeved. You hadn't actually left the car, so hadn't blocked her in or out. If she'd needed to use the drive presumably you would have moved immediately.

Yes, I can see that she probably has to put up with people actually blocking her in or out lots of times a day, but you weren't doing that, so she should have targeted her ire at those who do.

Dreamer789 · 07/05/2014 11:42

It's NOT illegal to park across a driveway

It is if the householder wants to get out and you are causing an obstruction. I phoned the police about this just a few weeks ago

FernMitten · 07/05/2014 12:01

Oh Op, I would like to offer you too. You've come home after being shouted at and probably feeing shaky, and touched a nerve in everyone with a parking thread. Don't take it to heart.

Davsmum · 07/05/2014 12:04

Gubbins There is NO justification for OP feeling peeved.
You CAN be booked for obstruction if you block someone's driveway.

I used to get sick of people saying to us that 'we would move the car if you asked' !
Asking to get out of your own driveway?!! Yeah, right!!

itiswhatitiswhatitis · 07/05/2014 12:08

I think sometimes nice people do thoughtless things and not nice people often do thoughtless things. I'm sure this lady has probably approached not nice people before in a calm manner and been given a load of verbal back so probably approaches all people who block her drive as though they are bastards.

Take it on the chin OP, you don't sound like a bit just someone who did something a little thoughtless and won't do it again.

itiswhatitiswhatitis · 07/05/2014 12:08

Git not bit

FederationPresidentBarryFife · 07/05/2014 12:14

Jeez give OP a break. Yes she was wrong but it's not the crime of the century so climb down off those high horses!!!

slev · 07/05/2014 12:21

Just out of interest, is it illegal to block someone's driveway if there's not parked there? i.e. when I get home I won't be able to get into my drive and will have to park down the road, but my car isn't blocked in so nobody's obstructing me leaving the house.

Rhine · 07/05/2014 12:23

It doesn't matter if there's a sign there or not, if they have a dropped kerb then you don't block it. End of discussion.

Davsmum · 07/05/2014 12:59

SLEV It doesn't matter if you are parked in your drive or not - It has to be left so you have access. You would be obstructed from getting into your drive!

FederationPresidentBarryFife No,..it is not the crime of the century - but it is the sort of action that causes problems for people,..so if you do it and then expect people to feel sorry that you get a bad reaction - then you are on a loser!

Bahhhhhumbug · 09/05/2014 10:32

We were actually told that even we weren't supposed to park across our own white line and dropped kerb because apparently it doubles as wheelchair/pushchair access to cross the road at certain points. Not sure how true that is , but we don't tend to do it very often anyway unless dropping off shopping etc because we believe that the sight of our car across our drive might encourage others to park there at other times. But apparently you shouldn't even park over your own Hbar/dropped kerb.

WaitMonkey · 09/05/2014 10:42

YABU. I would hate to live next to a school.

BerniesBurneze · 09/05/2014 10:46

I am against everyoeveryone elses opinions here but you should expect that kind of thing if you live at a school.

Ttes some people will be gone 30 mins so rant at them - not someone who's left her baby in the car.

Purplepoodle · 09/05/2014 11:09

I live near a school. I don't mind if someone blocks my drive if they are literally throwing the kids out of the car. Its the parents who go into the school then spend 20mins talking with their friends at the gate that get me enraged

magpiegin · 09/05/2014 11:10

Ha ha. I love these. 'Am I being unreasonable?', 'Yes, you are', 'Oh people are being so aggressive!!!'. Why ask if you didn't think you were?

My parents also live near a school and this happens twice a day. Hugely annoying and of course YABU!!

WaitMonkey · 09/05/2014 11:33

It doesn't matter that you didn't see the 24 hour sign, you admit you know what you where doing was illegal, so you have no right to feel peeved. You broke the law. Also, it's very amusing that you don't like the replies your getting through your own selfishness so see them.as aggressive.

WaitMonkey · 09/05/2014 11:35

Glad you've admitted you are in the wrong and will apologize.

GoblinLittleOwl · 09/05/2014 11:54

Yes there was every need for her reaction. You blocked her driveway, because it was easier for you to drop the children close to the school than park legally farther away and WALK. She undoubtedly has her driveway blocked everyday, two or three times; I used to live opposite a nursery and it happened all the time. Parents' behaviour when taking their children to school is unbelievable; parked across driveways, on pavements, grass verges, which have been destroyed, across the school drive where the coaches come, across the bus stop, and even in the middle of the road, (cars parked either side), locked and left. She was at least reported to the police and prosecuted. It is a real issue in the village where I live, gridlock every day, and will undoubtedly result in double yellow lines, to the detriment of residents' parking. What is far worse, it is not safe, and there will be a fatal accident caused by unsafe parking, which happened at the first school I attended.

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