feeling sidelined

[EmilyAda]

After reading lots of the threads already active, especially the one about the Kidnapped school girls, I feel that I'm very selfish worrying about little old us.

However, My DSL! (Sarcasm on the D) has a new puppy.

We/I am not allowed to contact her until said puppy has settled in to home.

She missed my DS birthday to stay with puppy coz too young to be left alone, but in the same week could rush over to other SL coz DN home from college??

4 months on still not allowed to contact even by text coz got to look after puppy? which is now 7 months old and according to ML still not house trained, she has nappies all over house for it to do its business on, is this normal? I thought dogs "did" their business outside?

MY DCs are missing their cousins, what do I do? let her get bored with it as she inevitably will? my DCs are seeing through my excuses as they are wearing thin, any advice please?

Take the hint. She clearly doesn't want to spend time with you or your DCs. Why you would want to spend time with HER is a mystery to me.

I don't get it - has she told you that you are not to text her? She sounds a bit unhinged, but I don't really see why you want to spend time with someone who is so clearly demonstrating their lack of interest in interacting with you. How old are your children and hers?

The puppy is a complete excuse, she does not want to see you or your DC's. Why you are giving her headspace is beyond me, she clearly doesn't deserve or want it.

Just move on and concentrate on people who do want to socialise with you. Just because people are "family" doesn't mean it is a requirement to see and meet with them.

Don't bother with her. She sounds a total pain.

i agree she is being nasty as hell tell your children they can play with there real friends instead make a few play dates with them and generally ignore the "dear" if anyone talks about her just change the subject you dont need people like that in your life even if she was genuinely this mental over a puppy i would still say this

The puppy is an excuse, she doesn't want to see you. Just don't bother.

Thanks all, I know this really, just get the whole family is so important from in laws all the time so thought it was me not making enough effort, off to see really important friends now!