to be enjoying my new baby?

[MrsAtticus]

I have a one month old dd and a toddler. Yes I'm tired, and looking at my saggy tummy in dismay, but mostly i'm overjoyed and relishing this time which will pass so quickly.
But when people ask how I'm doing, and I tell them how much I'm enjoying it I feel like I've given the wrong answer, and get some strange and often slightly catty remarks.
I'm grateful of course that I have a fairly settled baby, still, it's not a walk in the park. AIBU to be enjoying it anyway? Why don't people like me to say that?

Of course YANBU!
I think I enjoyed DD1 being a baby because she was a bit of a novelty for me - I was 19, most of my mates were out living the dream but I was always happiest in my joggers chilling at home anyway, so she gave me a great excuse! It was hard but I enjoyed her. However, I fell pg with DD1 when she was about 9m.

I didn't especially have a great time when DD2 was born, she was lovely and placid during the day but had horrific colic for months and screamed from 6pm to 5am for a long long time. I have no memories of just cuddling her like I do DD1. I don't feel sad about it or anything, I just didn't enjoy her as a baby.

I had a bit of a gap and had DS1 when I was 26 and I had a feeling he may be my last. I've purposely enjoyed every part of it knowing I might not get to do it again - DP and I had an amazing week when he was born. The DDs were at school, it was cold and rainy outside. DP would get up and take the DDs to school, come home and light the fire. DS and I would come down and get set up with the duvet. DP cooked me breakfast and then we'd pop out for lunch a bit later or get a pizza delivered! I walked up to get the DDs then we would all get into pjs and chill on the sofa in front of the fire under the duvets.
It was like being on holiday!

Enjoy them when they're babies, they grow up all too quickly! I'm seriously considering having another one when DS goes to school

Musy be the hormones littlered

YANBU. I loved the newborn days with my DD. Lazed around recovering from the C-section, breastfeeding, and re-reading all the Anne of Green Gables books and allowing people to come and worship my PFB Once I was more mobile, DD was either in her big comfy pram or the sling, going for long walks in the most blissful Autumn countryside I can remember, going to baby yoga & massage classes...... lovely, really lovely.

Hope it's the same when we have DC2

I have loved the first few months with all mine. It's my favourite bit despite the no sleep etc. I'm in a minority amongst my friends though, most people seem to find the early days hard and love it ehen they get more of a personality at age 1. I find the year between 1 and 2 so so hard though and most people seem to love it!

I also have a one-month old and a toddler (3yo). Right this second I'm frustrated as the baby has been cluster feeding since 7.30am and I can't get me or the toddler dressed, we haven't got time to go to the park before pre-school and the tv has been on since 6am already. When the feeding finally settles down, you will find us all a lot happier. In the main, I feel lucky and privileged and very happy so I would only feel jealous or resentful of you if you told me how many brilliant things you were achieving - I wouldn't begrudge you your happiness!

There is a mum at school who is thoroughly enjoying her second DC. It's absolutely lovely to see tbh and I would be rather confused of anyone who was catty/jealous.

I also adored Dc2. DC1's babyhood was traumatic, so I really enjoyed the peace of DC2! I just cherished the time with a newborn and DC1.

I also told people I was happy but luckily most were pleased for me rather than rude. Even if others are struggling there is no need to begrudge you of a nice experience. It's even worse if they struggled in the past - that's just unnecessarily mean.

Enjoy those baby cuddles and the baby smell, their cute baby grows and all that baby loveliness while it lasts!! (Only a tiny bit jealous of you having a gorgeous little one )

Your post has filled me with hope OP.

I'm currently pregnant with DC2 and DD will be just 2 when they are born. I've been really worried about how I will cope with 2, but I'm hoping I can be like you

awwww, what lovely replies thanks. So glad others are enjoying/have enjoyed too!

Good on you OP. My mate has just a third who is a perfect baby - like her previous two were. I genuinely have not once got annoyed at her! She had a shit childhood and teen year were horrid too. I'm so happy she is blissfully contented as a mother, I would never begrudge a mother for being happy!

The thing that gets my goat is when parents excessively boast about their genius baby all day long over fb. It can get a lol tiresome ! But thats nt relevant sorry! I am due January with dc2 and hope I am like you! I found dd hard work as a newborn as she was a screamer and wouldn't nap, but 6 months onwards was lovely :)

yanbu at all. I think its lovely. I feel the exact way u do although my dd is coming up to 6 months and my ds is 4. She was born 2 months after ds started pre-school and she just fell into our routine, she's fab! I love watching the way they both interact, ds adores his baby sister! And now she is sitting up and become a bit more mobile he loves being able to actually play with her.
I also think I'm enjoying it so much as I miscarried just as I got into the second trimester with our second baby so when dd finally arrived I was overjoyed and I don't think anything could put a downer on it!
Don't get me wrong I've had a few hellish days but on the whole it's bliss!
Congratulations on your lovely children and long may it continue xx