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to think school should have allowed dd's hairband?

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m0therofdragons · 06/05/2014 16:37

Not sure if iabu or not. It's fairly petty but annoyed me.
Last year dd had a straw sun hat for school but running around it came off all the time and didn't sit well over pony tails etc. Anyway, today was very sunny here and dd asked if ssh she could wear a light weight hair band she got last summer from Spain. It's pale pink and basically an elastic hair band that goes over your head but their is extra fabric over the top to protect from the sun - all the kids were wearing them on holiday and they stay on brilliantly. So I let dd wear it as she is very fair haired so I thought it sensible to have protection.
Anyway, she's come home and apparently it's not allowed so she ended up with nothing on her head at play time.
I don't really see why it's a big deal but okay I can accept it's not allowed but I do feel they should have let her wear it today so she was protected. Dd is in year 1 so 6yo.

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Martorana · 06/05/2014 16:43

Did she explain and only wear it when she was outside? If there is a uniform hair band colour, I can see why they wouldn't let her wear it in lessons....

SilverDragonfly1 · 06/05/2014 16:56

I don't think you're unreasonable, but my real comment is, can you post a picture of what you mean? Sounds like something that would be really ideal for me tbh (giant head so hats never fit and the type of hair that headbands never stay in)?

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m0therofdragons · 06/05/2014 16:56

She usually wears a plain yellow hair band that does match the uniform but uniform rule says no overly decorated or fashion accessories so I guess it comes under that. She says she said to her teacher it was just for outside but she is 6. I've emailed the teacher asking for clarification.

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DioneTheDiabolist · 06/05/2014 16:59

Are you talking about a scarf type thing OP?

PeterParkerSays · 06/05/2014 17:02

Is it someting like this? It's classed as a headband but I could see why a teacher would say no if it is this sort of thing.

LIZS · 06/05/2014 17:02

is kind of like a scarf/bandana ? tbh I think a hat is better protection.

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m0therofdragons · 06/05/2014 17:06

It's this

to think school should have allowed dd's hairband?
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m0therofdragons · 06/05/2014 17:09

Completely agree hat protects better but only if you have a child who keeps it on. Dds hair is shoulder length so to tie it up it interferes with the hat iyswim.
The weather's been so rubbish I haven't bought dc Sun hats yet but dd has used this in the park and it stayed on so well I thought it was ideal.

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steff13 · 06/05/2014 17:11

It's similar to the thing Cinderella wears when she's scrubbing floors. I think it's cute. Maybe it's the color. Could you ask the school what the problem is?

to think school should have allowed dd's hairband?
steff13 · 06/05/2014 17:11

I think it might be called a kerchief.

Vintagebeads · 06/05/2014 17:13

Yeah that's not really a headband.More a scarf.

I know what you mean about hats,my DD's never stay on and she burns in no time she uses a cricket(style). and I sewed in hat elastic to keep it on.

We need those hats the Ozzie schools have big wide brim and drawstring so they don't fall off.

PeterParkerSays · 06/05/2014 17:15

That's not a headband, it's a head scarf. Sorry, but I can see why they wouldn't allow it - not least because it gives other parents the right to send their child in with all sorts of bandanas. If they do have a rule against wearing fashion accessories, I can see why this fell foul of it.

Could you explain what your problem is with your DD keeping a hat on and see if they'd accept one if you made one in uniform colour. It can't be hard to make.

WorraLiberty · 06/05/2014 17:18

If your DD is so sun sensitive that she needs her head covered for less than an hour of May sunshine, I think you really need to buy her something school appropriate immediately.

imnottoofussed · 06/05/2014 17:18

I think if it was only for wearing outside during break and lunch then it should have been fine. I can understand if she wanted to keep it on during class as then it would be breaking the dress code rules.

I've not heard of a school that specifies what they class as acceptable headwear during summer months - normally they just say bring a hat and wear suncream so i'd definitely follow it up with them if they say its not ok to wear.

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m0therofdragons · 06/05/2014 17:19

Last year dd had a cowboy style straw hat with beads that was acceptable - thought this was more subtle. I don't really mind the rule - I know schools have them. It's more the fact she was not protected from the sun when she could have been.

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Picturesinthefirelight · 06/05/2014 17:19

I'd call that a scarf too

At ds's school the only hats allowed are baseball caps (with or without the neck flap) in school colours.

usualsuspectt · 06/05/2014 17:19

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WorraLiberty · 06/05/2014 17:19

And a baseball style cap is perfect for a ponytail.

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Endymion · 06/05/2014 17:21

It's a bit pointless as a sun shade though? Nothing shading her nose/face.

Wouldn't she be better with a brimmed hat or a sports style cap (though I have to be careful with sunscreens on ears and neck with ds1 and ds2.

Dd tends to wear a cotton bucket hat in summer. Lightweight but shades her face and ears.

Picturesinthefirelight · 06/05/2014 17:22

It's got the school logo on. Means there is no fuss about wearing them.

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m0therofdragons · 06/05/2014 17:22

Worraliberty - I've had skin cancer so yes I do want my child protected from the sun even if it's only May.

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steff13 · 06/05/2014 17:25

Would sunscreen not be sufficient? They make a spray for your skin and scalp.

dixiechick1975 · 06/05/2014 17:25

We call it a bandana - DD has a couple but doesn't wear them at school.

A friend used to send her DD to school in one to try and protect from nits.

I'd try and get a school colour one.

Endymion · 06/05/2014 17:25

But most skin cancers are on the face initially, and that only covers a very small part of her and provides very limited shade. It's a decoration rather than a sun-protection measure IMO.