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To be in tears over DDs maths result? (Or is just my age/hormones)

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unlucky83 · 06/05/2014 11:01

My DD1 (13) is bright but 'can't do' maths - never has been able to ...got 3/24 in a test a few weeks ago -
Did a test last week to determine sets next year...
In general I'm (trying to be) laid back - not forcing her to work - trying to get her do it for herself etc - but honestly I was really worried that she was going to screw up her chances ...(getting in such a low set she wouldn't have an option to enter for Nat 5 (Scotland) maths etc...basically not be able to get GCSE equivalent maths)
I tried to help her revise a bit - we didn't get all the test questions done etc (to say it was a battle is an understatement) - she can do it but thinks she can't - and finds it boring - all very frustrating...

She just sent me a text - she got an A!

I'm in tears ...feeling pathetic ...(I am perimenopause though - an excuse?)

Just hoping she can keep it up!

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Mrsjayy · 06/05/2014 11:05

good for her something must have clicked dd is rubbish at maths she managed to get a General standard grade last year she was a surprised as me, some of the work she got some she didn't your daughter might be the same, she will get her NAT4 even if they dont put her forward for her exam it is going to be a recognised qualification,

DD has had to drop Higher though she said it was just too hard

agnescrumplebottom · 06/05/2014 11:06

That is such a lovely reaction unlucky Well done to your dd

FiveExclamations · 06/05/2014 11:07

Well done to your DD and I'd probably cry too, but I'm also Peri-menopausal so no help at all .

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unlucky83 · 06/05/2014 11:11

Thanks
Actually I'm glad she sent me a text - I think crying in front her would have been a massive 'fail' ...worse if she'd told me in front her friends!

The crying was a big shock!
(and in a few minutes I have to go into work - with a tear stained face - might pretend I'm getting hay fever....)

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Mrsjayy · 06/05/2014 11:12

you are just so relieved bet there is many mothers who wail when their children do well in something unexpected

Nocomet · 06/05/2014 11:13

and well done DD!

I know the feeling, this is a maths and science mad household and sometimes DD2 finds this and having always had very good mathematicians in her class a bit daunting.

She does the I don't like, can't do, am not going to try at Maths act too. She's refused to do the maths challenge thing, which I'm annoyed about.

So OP I absolutely share your delight in DDs getting good marks and realising they jolly well can do Maths!

AndiPandi · 06/05/2014 11:15

well my eyes have filled up too and it's not even my daughter! That's great news, hopefully it will give her confidence a boost too.

FrancesNiadova · 06/05/2014 11:18

Well Done 83 & Daughter. Blub away! and more !

StarGazeyPond · 06/05/2014 11:45

Well done to your DD. My son never 'got' maths either and now, at 30, is doing evening classes. He cannot tell the time using a clock with hands, either.

Aeroflotgirl · 06/05/2014 11:45

Fanbloodytastic op that is great so pleased for you

TeenAndTween · 06/05/2014 11:48

Well done your DD.
Maths is 50% about confidence, so maybe now she will start to feel she can do it.

financialwizard · 06/05/2014 11:51

I'm not perimenapausal but I want to cry with you. That is fantastic. Well done that girl.

LadyMacmuffintop · 06/05/2014 11:53

This gives me hope! Congratulations to your DD and you have the right to be extremely proud; crying is more than acceptable in my book!

thebodylovesspring · 06/05/2014 11:56

Well done to your dd. brilliant result.

She sounds just like my dd who has finally found a teacher who gets her confidence issues and has brought her grade up from a g to a c and he had high hopes for a b at GGE.

Bet this boost to her confidence will work bloody wonders.

softlysoftly · 06/05/2014 11:59

Oh bless you YANBU.

FWIW I "can't" do maths. there is a bit of my brain missing I swear that makes the numbers just seem like a mountain to climb.

However with a determined maths teacher and parents with the patience of a saint as I railed against them, I scraped a D at GCSE and ongoing it has taught me that with time, patience and refraining from throwing my laptop out of the window, I "can" do maths just with effort.

It has not in any way held me back in life and I have a very successful career and help run DHs business, managing large volume planning and budgets as part of that just slowly and in my own time

So you are clearly doing a good job and in years to come she will thank you and you can cry some more!

hellsbells99 · 06/05/2014 12:01

Well done to your DD

PrimalLass · 06/05/2014 12:46

Oh well done her.

I was the same - failed my Higher prelim and got an A a few months later in the real Higher. It just fell into place. She cannot do too many example questions IMO. Practise, practise, practise.

wigglesrock · 06/05/2014 13:52

Good for her, I couldn't get my head round Maths at all at school. When we were doing our GCSEs it was very touch & go re passing. I worked really hard - practiced, practiced, practiced & I got a C - it was one of the proudest moments of my young life . I remember getting my results & frantically searching down the page to see if I'd got it . Out of all my results & I did well, it was the one I really really deserved.

Nocomet · 06/05/2014 21:28

Wigglesrock it will be the same if my dyslexic DD1 gets a B for English. She really really has worked.

It makes me so cross that lots of universities are refusing to take C's (she's a scientist and with a word processes and a spell checker her English is good enough and her comprehension is brilliant!). The way the GCSE grades are talked down is disgraceful.

sassysally · 06/05/2014 21:31

Well done! But be warned that if all her previous results are dire, I think it it is very unlikely they will place her in a high set based on the results of one test.

HerRoyalNotness · 06/05/2014 21:33

Gosh that is brilliant! I am also rubbish as Maths, and as an adult did an Open University Maths Level 1 paper to see if I could do it, and I could! It gave me a lot more confidence. But I'm still rubbish, which is ironic as I work in a finance-y type job

DS2 (3.5yo) had me prickling at the eyes yesterday. He is scared of deep water, and will not go in the pool. He went to his first swim lesson yesterday, which stared with him crying and asking me to go with him, and more crying as he got in the pool. Then a little girl splashed him. And he giggled. And smiled, and started splashing, and did everything the teacher asked, and was just great!

WestmorlandSausage · 06/05/2014 21:40

if it makes you feel any better I was SHITE at maths. Had to have extra lessons and everything as was was predicted a C/D at GCSE and they were worried I wouldn't get a C, was very much an A/B student in everything else. I managed to get a B at GCSE by the skin of my teeth/ fluke that a practice paper I had done outside of school had covered the exact tricky question at the end of the paper that a lot of people that year struggled with.

Anyway, fast forward 15 years and I'm known at work for my good mental arithmetic skills in comparison to others!!! Oh how I laugh

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