To be annoyed at Ex tonight...

[Bigbird01]

My ex likes to speak to our DCs every night just before their bedtime. Tonight he rang as usual and, as usual I exchanged pleasantries with him and then put him on speaker phone to speak to the kids (I'd happily let them speak to him without me hearing what was said, just that they tend not to hold the phone close enough to their ear / mouth). As he was talking to them, he mentioned that he was stood outside our mutual friends house - which is across the road!
It just struck me as really bizarre that didn't think to just ask me if he could pop in a say goodnight to them in person. I really dislike him, but I work really hard at staying amicable with him as I know that the kids would bear the brunt of any hard feeling he had towards me so he should feel perfectly comfortable coming in (as he does regularly when it suits him) even if it was only for a couple of minutes!
He did eventually come over to give them a quick cuddle - only because I suggested it though!

Then, to top it off, I've just come up to bed and realised (as I was trying to set the alarm) that I'd left the garage wide open all evening. He would have seen this when he came over. Why the hell didn't he mention it!!

AIBU?

Erm because he may have not noticed.

I dunno, I can see the thread now "ex just turned up at bedtime because he was supposedly in the area, AIBU to think this is a inappropriate" and loads of posters telling you that you should call the police if he does it again and make sure you have 10000 locks on the doors.

As for the garage, he probably didn't notice. Bit weird that you are annoyed with him for not rectifying your mistakes, tbh it seems like you're the one with the blurred boundaries whilst he is acting quite appropriately for an ex partner.

Yes, I think it was considerate of him not to just turn up out of the blue.

Yeah, good point about the opposite Famzilla. It is just very out of character for him to be considerate.

He would have noticed the garage, you have to walk up to it to get to the front door, but again, fair point that it was my mistake.

He has been particularly selfish this week and I think I've spent the whole week trying not to react, but have ended up getting irritated by the little stuff instead. Thanks for putting it in perspective folks.