To find this VERY suspicious?

[mrsleomcgary]

Sorry but to avoid drip feeding this will be a long one.

My BIL has a child who's 7 years old, he and the mother split before my nephew was born and their relationship has alway been volatile even when they were together, either best friends or hate each other. The ex had some problems recently with an ex (not my BIL) and as a result has moved away. Not an ideal situation but my BIL still sees his child every few and they both seem to be doing well.

Anyway,since moving she's gotten a job in a local shop,small independently owned type place not a chain. Her first post on the subject was that she had the job and the boss asked to meet her child and then taken them to see around his farm. I can't remember the exact post but it left the impression that she stayed in the shop while her child went off with this guy. I admit as soon as I seen this alarms went off in my head.

Anyway tonight she's posted again saying thanks to the boss she now has a car, having not even had her first driving lesson. She hasn't gone into specifics but again the tone of the post makes me think he has bought it for her, or at least given his old car to her. And again it's got alarm bells going off in my head, you hear stories don't you about paedophiles 'grooming' mothers to get to their kids and to me this just seems very dodgy. It's not like she's been there for years and has built a relationship with this guy,its literally weeks since she's known him but she's already referring to him as being like a second father to her.

Am I alone in thinking this is weird? And if not what do I do? I was at school with her but we were never friends, moved in different circles etc, and we're only friends on Facebook because of her child. However she's the type that makes a drama out of everything and if I, or anyone for that matter, voiced concerns about this she would take it as trying to 'ruin' her life and not wanting her to be happy which couldn't be further from the truth. And at the same time I could be completely wrong and this guy might just be that nice.

Any thoughts appreciated.

So the only thing relating to the child was that he showed the boy round his farm? And you only had an impression that the mum may not have been with them?

I don't understand how you've thought up this potentially awful scenario based on that.

Speak to BIL?

Maybe find out the facts?

Sounds like he might just be trying to impress her to be honest, no reason to think it's suspicious.

I would have gone on the farm trip rather than let my child go alone though. Agree with gobbolino that you could mention your concern to BIL about the boss being alone with the child.

I be honest kelly I don't understand either why that was the first thing that came to mind, but it was. It just seemed very odd to me that this man asked to meet him and then took him away without his mum within hours, if i remember correctly he offered to show him the farm,nephew didnt ask to see it. But then if it was me I would have gone with them. And now this thing with the car, it just doesn't sit well with me.