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to be annoyed with my parents' snobbishness re school

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redskyatnight · 05/05/2014 17:06

Just had my parents to visit and they were telling me about the primary school that my niece will start in in September. Apparently the school gets fantastic results (60% Level 5 in KS2 SATs) and is great preparation for secondary education (over 50% get into selective schools at 11). They then went on to wax lyrical about how pleased and relieved hey were that niece hadn't ended up with her catchment school as it wasn't nearly as good - the intake was a bit "mixed" and the results were poor. I did make a mild comment about that sounding more like it was a school of high achievers rather than the school necessarily, and got a response about how that might be so, but it was a much better environment for their niece.

Since they've gone I have stupidly looked up both schools - the school my parents were slagging off, looks remarkably similar (on paper anyway, which is as much as my parents have seen of it) to the school my DC go to. My parents are education snobs, and were horrified that the DC hadn't gone to private school, but I hadn't realised they were quite so appalled by their current school.

So, I know they are too old to change, and I just have to put up with them, but am I allowed to be annoyed by their blinkered attitude?

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Aspiringhuman · 05/05/2014 17:09

It would annoy me too.

temporarilyjerry · 05/05/2014 17:14

Are you happy with your DC's school? If so, there is no problem. But yes, you are allowed to be annoyed.

joanofarchitrave · 05/05/2014 17:26

Yes, you're allowed, but try to put a time limit on it. I can't really advise as this sort of thing sends me quite doolally and I think you are doing well!

The high emotion around education in the UK is the only thing that sometimes makes me wish I lived in another country Grin though no doubt it's not angst free elsewhere. Trust your DC and your own opinions.

Nennypops · 05/05/2014 17:30

YANBU. It's one of the irritating features of the area where I live that one of the primary schools is regularly smug feted for getting extremely high KS2 results, when everyone knows that the reality is that it gets those results purely because so many of the parents spend a fortune on private tuition in order to get their dc into a nearby grammar school and/or highly competitive independent schools.

sillymillyb · 05/05/2014 17:32

Ahh I feel your pain. The fact I can't afford private and will be instead sending ds to the (outstanding) local primary is a source of family shame. My sil said it would be over her dead body her kids went there.... Which was nice. I just smile and ignore (then down wine and seethe behind the scenes!)

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