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AIBU?

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Just a bit of a moan...

13 replies

katykat5 · 05/05/2014 17:04

Not so much AIBU because I can see this woman's point but just want to have a moan as I'm feeling a bit down.

I have been looking after my ill grandfather for most of today so didn't get to Tesco until 3:05pm. I needed to go to Tesco opticians as a screw has come loose in my glasses and they keep falling off my face and they will be all week. I work long hours so probably won't have the time to get up to the opticians again as they close quite early where I live.

I saw on the board that the opticians section had closed at 3pm. As it was only about 5 minutes past closing time, I approached one of the opticians employees who was packing stuff away and politely said "excuse me, I know you're closed but would you mind taking a few minutes to tighten a screw in my glasses? I won't be able to come up here again and they're falling off my face."
She replied: "No. I was meant to go home 10 minutes ago so I can't do it now. Come back tomorrow."

I know that she'd finished her shift but it did annoy me. It wouldn't have killed her to just tighten up a screw and it was quite mean-spirited. I used to work in retail and I often worked over my hours if a customer needed something but I guess my customer service skills were slightly better. My job at the moment involves me doing lots of unpaid work in my own time - I couldn't just clock off and refuse to do anything else.

Just wanted to moan as I'm feeling under a lot of stress with work and my grandfather being ill and it made me lose a bit of faith in people. What happened to doing things out of kindness?

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Pigginnora · 05/05/2014 17:07

YANBU but if you worked for Tesco, you would understand her behaviour!

YourMaNoBraBackOfMyCar · 05/05/2014 17:10

Maybe she was already running late? I work behind a bar. The amount of people who come to the bar and pretending that they didn't hear the two bells warning them it was last orders is ridiculous. Then the abuse when you say no...

I bet your bottom dollar she'll have had a lot more stuff to do and simply didn't have time to help you.

TheNewSchmoo · 05/05/2014 17:10

Maybe she had family she wanted to spend the rest of the Bank Holiday with. They weren't closing, they were closed.

Many moons ago I worked for a Building Society, every Saturday at 12 without fail there would be people banging on the doors "can you just, can you just". No you can't just.

Loose glasses won't kill you for a bit longer, just be annoying. That said you know you're being unreasonable and I hope things get easier for you soon.

littleblackno · 05/05/2014 17:12

Yanbu to moan but maybe she has stress, is a carer too and is now working past her hours.
could you get one of those screwdriver things for glasses?

Hope you get them fixed soon.

Fullpleatherjacket · 05/05/2014 17:16

Maybe she works long hours too?

Invest in a repair kit with a mini screwdriver. Can be had for a quid in poundland.

YourMaNoBraBackOfMyCar · 05/05/2014 17:18

Just a thought, my local newsagent has one of those stands that has random stuff on ( sewing kit, glue, playing cards, fuses etc). They have spectacle repair kits too. Maybe yours might too?

ThinkIveBeenHacked · 05/05/2014 17:23

YABU.

It is a shame that you needed her assistance and she wasnt able to give it, but it was after closing time. If she said yes to every little request it would add onto her day.

nicename · 05/05/2014 17:25

Maybe her shift finished at 2? I am the mug who always picks up the phone when I am supposed to be out the door!

I have a screwdriver kit for my glasses that is on a keyring (ever since some bugger charged me a pound to replace a screw when one popped out and I couldn't find it!).

RabbitSaysWoof · 05/05/2014 17:26

YABU. Sorry.

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katykat5 · 05/05/2014 17:31

Yeah I know I'm being unreasonable. I just would have done it for her if the roles were reversed. I have before in other jobs and gone home late.

Will look for one of these screwdriver kits. Thanks.

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WooWooOwl · 05/05/2014 17:35

I'm with you that people should do things out of kindness, but you have no idea what this women has going on in her own life that meant she didn't have the extra time to give you.

For all you know she could be on here later asking 'AIBU to feel guilty for not staying at work for an extra twenty minutes when I have to get to the hospital to see my sick mother and then pick my child up from my cunt of an ex who won't have fed him any dinner?'

YourMaNoBraBackOfMyCar · 05/05/2014 17:38

Fwiw, I don't think YAB that U but I am generous with my time too. I hardly ever get out on time. But there are times when I simply can't give anything extra and I have no doubt that it must leave that person with the impression that I'm a witch, mean, inflexible, selfish etc etc which isn't fair on me. The saying is true "You can't please all of the people all of the time".

Rhine · 05/05/2014 17:48

YABU. It's not her problem that you couldn't get there earlier. I used to get this all the time when I worked in the estate agents on Saturdays when we'd close at four, the amount of time people would stand there banging on the doors demanding to be let in even though they could see we were closed.

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