Craving a one night stand AIBU

[Thatsjustme]

I'm just not getting satisfied enough by Dp , I've tried everything, talking to him , demonstrating , trying my hardest but it's always his way or that's it. We don't even really talk any more , I've met a guy I really really like and I'm really struggling to not just go run over there right now. I know IABU but I neeeed to do something , yes it's so wrong but when DP won't sort it out what do I do?!

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Good Luck OP.

OP assuming you're genuine, don't do it, nothing good can come of it. Talk to your partner or make the decision to leave him of things cannot be resolved. A one night stand is very rarely just that...

Hmm ... It may be a phase. Have a good wank and then try talking to DH again. Could you try putting a different kind of effort in with him? I mean arranging something fun to do together that isn't all about sex. My DH can be quite sexually demanding / sulky sometimes and nothing puts me off more.

An affair could destroy your relationship and change who you are as a person. Real guilt I sola terrible terrible thing and a good orgasim isn't much of a trade off.

If you want to stay in your relationship you put up with this and work it out. If you want out then you split up BEFORE you shag somebody else. It's really very simple.

*Real guilt is a ...

YABU. If good sex is that important to you, either work through it with your dp or dump him and then you can have sex with the other guy. Cheating is not going to make your relationship with your dp any better because the same problem will exist until you and your dp fix it between you. If you do cheat and have sex with someone else for what ever reason then you need to ask yourself why you are staying with your dp? A person who loves and respects their oh do not cheat no matter what the reason. Work it out or break up

If your partner flat out refuses to do anything about your unfulfilling love life I'd be tempted to get rid. But not before finding out what his reluctance is. Is he maybe suffering erectile dysfunction and feeling ashamed for some reason?

The problem is that this other person you think you've got the hots for could be just as inept and selfish as that useless lump of lard who sleeps in your bed every night. Or worse, even more useless.

Having an affair or a one-night stand won't fix what's broken, Well, it might temporarily but what would be the point? Get rid, find someone else a whole lot less incompetent and selfish, or buy a vibrator

Erectile dysfunction? Not all satisfactory sex has to include PIV.

Ummmm, no but if he's refusing to talk about their sexual issues it would rather suggest the OP isn't getting satisfaction of any kind wouldn't you say?

Hardly beyond the bounds of reality to say here might be a physical problem on his part that is causing him to refuse to engage.

I wouldn't advise having a one night stand. I'm more concerned about the fact that he doesn't seem to care about your desires. It sounds like he won't meet you half way. Is it really worth continuing like that?

You don't sound happy in your relationship. Perhaps end it, rather than going behind his back, and have a one night stand then.

She's tried discussing it with him, DEMONSTRATING but it's always his way or that's it.

I'd say that she's tried her best to resolve this issue but he just doesn't give a damn. If he's suffering from ED there are a number of other avenues open to him but he doesn't give a shit.

Three options:

Ask for what you want/need, in pictures if necessary and make it clear that your relationship depends on him co-operating or it's curtains.

Buy a vibrator and use it in front of him, before he's got his rocks off the way he likes it and not after when he won't give a shit.

Dump him and find someone who does give a damn whether you're having fun in bed with him or not.

At the moment, it just sounds like you're a more comfortable and convenient receptacle than his hand.

How are things outside of the bedroom? Not saying sex isn't important, but if the other areas are good, at least there is a foundation.

If he really is that ignorant to your needs, your better off without your DP. A ONS or full blown affair will most likely fuck up everybody involved.

Nothing wrong with one night stands but not when it means cheating on a long term partner.

Either sort out your current situation or get rid before filling your boots elsewhere.

He is pretty selfish tbh , I try and make the effort , suggest we go out for meals etc but he just isn't bothered , he would rather sit in front of the tv , I'm just so bored ...

Sounds like you need to split up to be honest.

So does doesnt it :(

Do you have kids?

Yes we do

Oh :( I would've said fuck him and leave otherwise, but its trickier with dcs involved as it feels quite selfish to leave and break up a family because the sex is a bit shit.

In same position myself. Selfish partner in bed etc

Well this is what I mean ! They just don't get it do they , and I'm at the point now I can't b bothered because its so damn predictable , hence y I'm so close to going elsewhere just to feel important.

Can you send the dc to stay with relatives/friends for the night?

Some light bondage, blind fold, massages etc night of seductive foreplay and a change of sexual positions might be more fun than a one night stand

When we got a bit bored of our usual we bought a pack of kama sutra playing cards shuffled the deck, split it into three and picked the top card from each third. Those positions had to be incorporated into that nights fun. :-)