to want to protect my son - have I done the right thing?

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My ds1 (age 10 year 6) came home from school Friday upset and told me a girl who he sits next to at school had been saying horrible things to him. He is a sensitive soul, youngest in his year and liked by his teachers as he is hard working and tries his best at all times. He has loads of friends and I don't know it was just that she doesn't even know him and just made him feel like shit for no reason.

The girl had been saying things to him over a few weeks now calling him disgusting etc. I just saw red and marched him back class, as we live nearby, and caught the teacher. I just thought I am not letting him get upset about some silly girl. He was upset whilst talking to the teacher and was brilliant and said she would move him and that it was bullying.

My concern was have I made it worse for him? He will be going to high school soon and fuck will have to face a lot worse but I just thought my son is not disgusting!

I think you did the right think and well done that teacher for calling out the bullying.

No ofc you have done the right thing!

Thanks both - I am just worried he will be called a grass etc. I know what kids are like but I just want her to know that she has upset him but will he then be a target. God I am not looking forward to high school.

You have absolutely done the right thing & well done to that teacher too -

you have both also taught your DS that speaking up is the right thing & gets good results - which will no doubt serve him well in high school & life in general

Thanks Rockin

If in any doubt at all about bullying, err on the side of caution and speak up.

You have done the right thing.

IMO parents tolerate too much of this sort of thing for fear of repercussions (I've been guilty of this)

But if it was never tolerated it would be stamped out a lot more.

Well done.

He should not be moved...she should. He did nothing wrong so why should he be made to stand out?

Winnibago - the teacher said the same thing. She was brilliant she said I do not want you to move as you have done nothing wrong. It was his choice to move next to a friend. The teacher said she would just say it was a planned move. I was very proud of our school at that point.

Exactly, the girl should be moved, not your son.

If your ds class is like my dds class then the bully will be looked down on, not the victim.